"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I feel strong most days and carry myself as one but I feel like If I ever meet a girl that i'll probably spit the pill back out (even tho I don't want too.) I don't feel like I could ever go back learning how the game is really played but I still have that feeling of uncertainty sometimes.

How do you deal with this exactly? More of a way to prevent this if it ever happens.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The second step on mastering the game is to become part of it , to make it part of your flesh. If you have succeeded on this step ,you will never spit the pill out.

If you believe what you wrote , you have to start again from the basics.
 

marmel75

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Fvck no.
 

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That's why I'm still active here. Stay in the loop. Read. Always be looking to improve. You won't spit it out unless you knowingly do so.
 

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You can't "unlearn" the truth, so no.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Sometimes I worry, yet that's the great thing about prospective. If you're smart, you take a hard look at yourself and ask yourself what needs improving.

What actions, words made her or other plates interest level drop enough to reject or break up with you?

Write down the weaknesses on a paper, journal and eliminate them to the best of your abilities.

Practice affirmations, continue approaching, exercising, reading interesting subjects, career, etc.

When you begin to notice that you're continually coming from a frame of abundance and less scarcity mindset; you'll worry less about "spitting out a pill."
 

ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Never. I have done what NSX-R had said and made it apart of me. I have completely indulged the red pill at this point and not only that, I have let it work through, get absorbed, and pass through my system. I have gone through all the stages of it (first shock/realization, incorporation, rage and bitterness towards women, and now acceptance). I have accepted how women are and realize that I cannot change them, but that I can change myself and that in turn will change how they act towards me.

One thing I have realized though, is that most of the things I learned in the manosphere were essentially things I already knew deep down inside. All I really needed to do was re-embrace them. I was once a free soul back when I was a very young kid, and society portraying how social interactions should be like were unnatural for me and thus fvxked me over. I have since re-embraced most, but not all, of my true self. I am never going to allow myself to be directly influenced by society or by others ever again. I need to become who I once was. The closest I got to reachieving transcension was when I was 15, and a bit before I discovered this place. I had reached the absolute pinnacle of self-actualization. I need to get back to that point, and I might be getting closer to it soon.

So to answer your question in a nutshell OP: No, I cannot. Nor will I ever try to unlearn what I have now ingrained within myself.
 

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I have accepted how women are and realize that I cannot change them, but that I can change myself and that in turn will change how they act towards me.
This a thousand times. Remember the three spheres of incluence:

Sphere one : Things you control
Sphere two : Things you can influence
Sphere three: Things beyond your control and influence

After you internalize the mindset its is there to stay, keep cultivating it and it will become second nature. Along the way you will notice it sticking more and more.
 

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Once a man starts to apply different principles to life and sees results, it's pretty difficult to turn back to the old blue-pill lifestyle. It's a bit like asking would you revert back to crawling on your hands and knees, once you have learned to walk upright.

Old habits die hard, and mistakes are made in the early days. But continued learning, revision and self reflection keeps us honest and progressing.
 

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there are guys who spit out the red pill and become beta white knights to get pvssy, don't become one of those guys, you'll only end up cucked, stay safe brothers.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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