"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Do you control your thinking about her?

sam21

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I do control my thinking about her because nothing good comes from it.. besides the momentary pleasure it may give you.

But there are some-like situation that are more confusing.

Like..

I know she was chatting with this friend of mine, but I was ignoring her... then I went to the bathroom and when I came back the 2 of them were disconnected, so I was going to check the time they went offline to see if they both went offline at the same time, and I realized that that was good for the information.. but bad for the inner peace and for the emotions and for the state of mind I want and need to have in order to succed with her.

soo.. I'm not completely sure about the point of this, so I'll get it more simple:

Do you control your thinking about her? :)

I think you should not let a girl put in danger your confidence, even if that means ignoring some good information. And you should not play it like "oh, I'm super confident I'll check the events viewer because I can handle the emotions"

That's wrong, that's an illusion... an excuse. I think it's a common trap in every of us.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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spitkicker

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don't ask questions if you don't want to hear the answer.defintely. this issomething i had to deal with alot in my first LTR.
 
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