"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Do you control your thinking about her?

sam21

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I do control my thinking about her because nothing good comes from it.. besides the momentary pleasure it may give you.

But there are some-like situation that are more confusing.

Like..

I know she was chatting with this friend of mine, but I was ignoring her... then I went to the bathroom and when I came back the 2 of them were disconnected, so I was going to check the time they went offline to see if they both went offline at the same time, and I realized that that was good for the information.. but bad for the inner peace and for the emotions and for the state of mind I want and need to have in order to succed with her.

soo.. I'm not completely sure about the point of this, so I'll get it more simple:

Do you control your thinking about her? :)

I think you should not let a girl put in danger your confidence, even if that means ignoring some good information. And you should not play it like "oh, I'm super confident I'll check the events viewer because I can handle the emotions"

That's wrong, that's an illusion... an excuse. I think it's a common trap in every of us.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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spitkicker

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don't ask questions if you don't want to hear the answer.defintely. this issomething i had to deal with alot in my first LTR.
 
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