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Do you condone winking at a stranger (woman)?

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Does this fall into the sexual vs. creepy thing?

She'll find it sexual if she finds your attractive, but will find it creepy if she doesn't find you attractive?
 

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If you're confident, you can do whatever the hell you want.
 

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Exactly!

Don't wonder what a woman will think if you do it...if you want to do it, then do it.

And if she's so weird that she thinks you're a creep for doing something funny like that, then that's not the sort of girl you want to be with.

A good variation on this is to say something (that could possibly be made up) in a serious way, and wink at the same time.
 

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I know this is an old thread. But I've been using winking as a cold approach method, and if she smiles then you know she is interested.

Nothing gross or creepy about it.
 

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Dont do it. Just smile. I only use winks when I talk with someone and they say some witty truth with which I agree, use it like "Muh niggga" type a thing.

Dont wink. Smile.

Again, just my opinion.
 

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Weak males will look like try hard goobers when they try winking at a girl. If your online looking for answers then your not the type that should be winking at any female older than 5 years old.

You don't have the swag or charisma. Sorry. You will look like a fool trying it until you get the confidence to back it up.
 

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It's a cultural thing really. In the UK it means many different things, including a casual greeting (as common as a hand-shake), acknowledgement, sign of endearment or indeed flirtatious.

Nothing wrong with it in my book.
 

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SeymourCake said:
sexual vs. creepy thing?
tall,handsome,rich,athletic ... whatever ... blink = sexy
ugly,short,poor,fat ... whatever ... blink = creepy

if she think you are a catch you can poo in middle of the street and you it will be cool.though i woulnd never blink it is so 80ties .... ))
 

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BrainDamage92 said:
Dont do it. Just smile. I only use winks when I talk with someone and they say some witty truth with which I agree, use it like "Muh niggga" type a thing.

Dont wink. Smile.

Again, just my opinion.
Gonna agree with this. Most of the time I wink, its when kidding around with friends, and agreeing to something they just said. Usually as a way to acknowledge something said, but in a nonverbal manner.

With women, Ive only ever winked after there was already some rapport built. The urge to wink at a stranger has never been there. And I dont think a girl has ever done it to me either. Usually you just make eye contact a couple times, and smile to assure mutual interest.
 

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