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Do you condone winking at a stranger (woman)?

SeymourCake

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Does this fall into the sexual vs. creepy thing?

She'll find it sexual if she finds your attractive, but will find it creepy if she doesn't find you attractive?
 

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Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If you're confident, you can do whatever the hell you want.
 

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Exactly!

Don't wonder what a woman will think if you do it...if you want to do it, then do it.

And if she's so weird that she thinks you're a creep for doing something funny like that, then that's not the sort of girl you want to be with.

A good variation on this is to say something (that could possibly be made up) in a serious way, and wink at the same time.
 

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I know this is an old thread. But I've been using winking as a cold approach method, and if she smiles then you know she is interested.

Nothing gross or creepy about it.
 

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Dont do it. Just smile. I only use winks when I talk with someone and they say some witty truth with which I agree, use it like "Muh niggga" type a thing.

Dont wink. Smile.

Again, just my opinion.
 

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Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Weak males will look like try hard goobers when they try winking at a girl. If your online looking for answers then your not the type that should be winking at any female older than 5 years old.

You don't have the swag or charisma. Sorry. You will look like a fool trying it until you get the confidence to back it up.
 

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It's a cultural thing really. In the UK it means many different things, including a casual greeting (as common as a hand-shake), acknowledgement, sign of endearment or indeed flirtatious.

Nothing wrong with it in my book.
 

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SeymourCake said:
sexual vs. creepy thing?
tall,handsome,rich,athletic ... whatever ... blink = sexy
ugly,short,poor,fat ... whatever ... blink = creepy

if she think you are a catch you can poo in middle of the street and you it will be cool.though i woulnd never blink it is so 80ties .... ))
 

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BrainDamage92 said:
Dont do it. Just smile. I only use winks when I talk with someone and they say some witty truth with which I agree, use it like "Muh niggga" type a thing.

Dont wink. Smile.

Again, just my opinion.
Gonna agree with this. Most of the time I wink, its when kidding around with friends, and agreeing to something they just said. Usually as a way to acknowledge something said, but in a nonverbal manner.

With women, Ive only ever winked after there was already some rapport built. The urge to wink at a stranger has never been there. And I dont think a girl has ever done it to me either. Usually you just make eye contact a couple times, and smile to assure mutual interest.
 

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You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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