"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This is probably an AFC question but I'm curious does this hurt your chances? Occasionally, there are just one too many attractive females in the vicinity and I can't help but look.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No. Bad experience.

Very few girls do the chasing game and enjoy being jealous.

Usually they would just roll their eyes, call me a d*ck and walk and talk to someone else.
 
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if I see something I like, I look. Even point out how good other females look to the girls i'm with. I like to think it keeps them on their toes
 
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Babnik said:
No. Bad experience.

Very few girls do the chasing game and enjoy being jealous.

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You clearly know f**k all about women if you honestly believe this.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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BrokenLeftWing said:
if I see something I like, I look. Even point out how good other females look to the girls i'm with.
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Same as me...
 
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Ripper said:
You clearly know f**k all about women if you honestly believe this.
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Maybe because I take it from experience, and not from basement nerds' advice?
 
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I think Babnik is right.
If you're with a girl that's anything more than casual then don't be blatantly checking out other women.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Teflon_Mcgee said:
I think Babnik is right.
If you're with a girl that's anything more than casual then don't be blatantly checking out other women.
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I know I am right. There is the real life and there is SoSuave.

In real life when I talk to a single girl and then a hottie comes by and I suddenly stop giving attention to the girl I was talking to in order to look at another babe - the original babe BAILS.

Maybe this crap works on super hot spoiled brats in LA, but I am not in LA and girls here aren't like that!
 
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Babnik said:
I know I am right. There is the real life and there is SoSuave.

In real life when I talk to a single girl and then a hottie comes by and I suddenly stop giving attention to the girl I was talking to in order to look at another babe - the original babe BAILS.

Maybe this crap works on super hot spoiled brats in LA, but I am not in LA and girls here aren't like that!
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I think the first poster talks about a girl you are already are dating, or at least that was my first impression when I read the post, and then yes, I mention other good looking girls that are around and stuff like that.

If on the other hand he talks about a girl you just approached then you should keep your eyes focused on her eyes ;)
 
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You can still check out other girls, just don't be so obvious about it. Wait til she's not looking and sneak a peek.
 
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