"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do you believe you have to be good in bed to keep a fvck buddy?

Who Dares Win

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I somehow accepted that my sexual performances are average at the most if not lower, Im lazy and egoist plus I made most of my experience through fvck buddies and one night stands so didnt really have a gf to give me honest feedbacks.

Anyway I have girls that I banged that not only keep themselves around me (even after months of no talking) but also give me their bodies, some even tell me that they like me and reject guys which are visibly more good looking than me.

Dont get me wrong Im not complaining or trying to be a better lover, just wanted to know how to keep such options (precious options during dry spells) and create even more.

I exclude that they consider me boyfriend material since I treat them poorly, talk dirty to them and make clear Im not interested in a relationship with them.

I had other girls in similar situations and those dont talk to me anymore not even reply to texts, trying to find out whats keeping these ones since temporarily talking they all come from 2013-14.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Spyr0

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Yes you do! Would you go back to a chick that was boring in bed?

Hooking up again later down the line will depend on the lasting impression you left before drifting apart and her current circumstances. (E.g new rich boyfriend or long dry spell)

If you were the best she ever had its only going to increase the chances of a lay.

I'd recommend finding new plates to spin, usually people drift apart for a reason.
 

cola

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Here is the thing..
Sex with a female is 100% mental.
If you have sex with a girl and perform exactly the same and her interest level is like 90% she will think its great.
The exact same performance and her IL is like 50% she may not like it..
Hope that makes sense.
 

skinnyguy

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I sucked in bed when I was 20 but my gf thought I was God's gift to earth. She said "I'll never break up with you" and wanted to have my kids. So I agree with cola.
 

guru1000

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Yes, if her SMV is higher than yours.
No, if her SMV is lower.
Maybe, if it's the same.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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El Payaso

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It depends on many factors.

Your interest level, her interest level, your SMV, her SMV etc.
 

WanderingMan

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I agree with cola as well.

Why do you believe you're bad in bed?

I've completely ravaged a chick, been as selfish as can be - and she has loved it. Don't think you have to spend two hours eating out a woman for you to be a great "lover" - that's faulty conditioning.
 
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