"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Do You Believe In Karma?

soulforge

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Hey guys just wanted your opinion on this matter.

Currently i am seeing a woman who i am in a commited relationship with.. been dating 6 months now, and things are pretty serious..

I am 40 years old.. and she is 44 years old..

Now i agree at this early point of the relationship i should still be spinning plates.. but i get this feeling that if i cheat on her.. then that shiit is going to come back and hit me hard one day..


If i do wrong by her, then i guess its only a matter of time, till Karma deals with me in a similar way..

What are your opinions on this matter???
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Think after 6 months you should still be spinning plates? Maybe it's me but after a month or 2 I focus on one girl if I like her.
 

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Karma is good so others fvck up their own life because they don't ask themselves that question.
 

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There is no ultimate meaning to existence. There is no karma, there is no God, there is not an ultimate goal to which everything is directed.
It sucks a lot, but gives you radical raw freedom.
As for your specific situation its up to you to decide if you are doing wrong or not. But don't worry, there's nothing supranatural coming back to you in the future, but there's always people that might want to hurt you if you did wrong to them.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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HoneyHitter

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I believe in proof, probability and verifiable facts. Karma is nonsense.

There are innocent people dying everyday. And there also terrible people living the longest, most enjoyable lives possible.

Life will never be fair, so deal with it just the way it is.
 

beforeimgone

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Hey guys just wanted your opinion on this matter.

Currently i am seeing a woman who i am in a commited relationship with.. been dating 6 months now, and things are pretty serious..

I am 40 years old.. and she is 44 years old..

Now i agree at this early point of the relationship i should still be spinning plates.. but i get this feeling that if i cheat on her.. then that shiit is going to come back and hit me hard one day..


If i do wrong by her, then i guess its only a matter of time, till Karma deals with me in a similar way..

What are your opinions on this matter???

Personally, I don't believe in karma; however, I am a huge advocate of it.
 

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Real men don't cheat, they have the b@lls to end it first if they feel compelled to do so.
 

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I believe in the law of cause and effect....

or the law of reaping and sowing...

You're reaping right now exactly what you sowed in the past. And you'll reap in the
future the seeds that you're sowing right now.

What you reap is what you sow.

So I never really looked at that as Karma, but it is classed as karma.
http://www.social-consciousness.com...laws-of-karma-that-will-change-your-life.html

The pendulum has to swing equally in both directions..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Karma, no karma - lying is for strokers

Be straight with yourself and you don't have to worry about being straight with others.
I think this is a great pearl of wisdom. I believe in being honest and trying of living my life as happy as I can without hurting others. Sometimes you fail at that, but if you are thinking beforehand that doing X or Y would hurt another people that doesn't deserve it why going in that direction?
 

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Real men don't cheat, they have the b@lls to end it first if they feel compelled to do so.
Yes, if I'm with a lady, she's my lady... I don't cheat!! It shows lack of character/integrity. Not who I am.
 

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I believe in the law of cause and effect....

or the law of reaping and sowing...

You're reaping right now exactly what you sowed in the past. And you'll reap in the
future the seeds that you're sowing right now.

What you reap is what you sow.

So I never really looked at that as Karma, but it is classed as karma.
http://www.social-consciousness.com...laws-of-karma-that-will-change-your-life.html

The pendulum has to swing equally in both directions..

How could the law of cause and effect possibly touch you if no one knows that you are the cause of all the fvckery?
 

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How could the law of cause and effect possibly touch you if no one knows that you are the cause of all the fvckery?
So if I were to punch you in the eye socket....

You're implying that the law of cause and effect states that somebody else must hold me accountable for my deeds......I think your missing the bigger picture. You're just looking at the surface level.

Here, listen to Bob:

Read Crime and Punishment
http://www.amazon.com/Crime-Punishment-Fyodor-Dostoyevsky/dp/0486415872
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think there is something whether it be karma, cause & effect, power of the universe, god, etc. However, most of the definitions of what it is are tied to movements and/or groups with other beliefs that I don't condone nor approve of. I'd just rather take the best of the knowledge that's being offered and form my own opinion about it. I'm not going to try and understand what that 'thing' is, but I realize it's there to help make 5hit right.
 

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I am 40 years old.. and she is 44 years old..
Men age into cheating, women age out of cheating. You never hear about female politicans ensnared in cheating sex scandals, not because of virtue but because they are ugly. At 44, a woman's capacity to find a new lover, of desirability, is greatly diminishing, depending on how hard she is hitting the wall. Demi Moore, 53, is reportedly still not over Ashton Kutcher.

How a woman reacts to being cheated on also depends on how much alpha or beta you are. If a man is alpha, women are inclined to blame themselves and make excuses, whereas betas are scorned.

With that said, it's better to drop her than to cheat.
 

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I believe in proof, probability and verifiable facts. Karma is nonsense.

There are innocent people dying everyday. And there also terrible people living the longest, most enjoyable lives possible.

Life will never be fair, so deal with it just the way it is.
Kharma is SOMEWHAT real. For example, behaving a certain way towards others will cause your energy to align a certain way and will cause you to catch the type of attention that energy gathers.

Kharma in a social context is easy to understand. Say if a lot of people are in your business against your will. your actions will echo and ripple through the social circle. So you can't do everyone dirty or half a$$ because they will know and eventually block or stop dealing with you.

The other thing is situationally there is kharma and it's all due to the energy of the situation and your and the other persons mentality.

Like for example it's usually not a good idea to "steal" someones gf/bf/wife/husband, because history has told us that the relationship will usually fail in the same way. So no matter how much you lie to yourself, underneath all those lies is the truth and the situation was based on pure lust and opportunity. Thoese feelings will have to be dealt with at a later time and it's usually a breakup due to the lack of trust on both parties behalves.

So it is somewhat true. But yes people get away with a lot of evil and it seems nothing happens to them. However people around them become hurt, loved ones, and also get some evil which causes them on obtuse paths in life and things happen to them.

So $hit does happen.

In the end be aware of the person you choose to be and represent and ensure most of your actions are congruent.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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