"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Do You Believe In Karma?

soulforge

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Hey guys just wanted your opinion on this matter.

Currently i am seeing a woman who i am in a commited relationship with.. been dating 6 months now, and things are pretty serious..

I am 40 years old.. and she is 44 years old..

Now i agree at this early point of the relationship i should still be spinning plates.. but i get this feeling that if i cheat on her.. then that shiit is going to come back and hit me hard one day..


If i do wrong by her, then i guess its only a matter of time, till Karma deals with me in a similar way..

What are your opinions on this matter???
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Think after 6 months you should still be spinning plates? Maybe it's me but after a month or 2 I focus on one girl if I like her.
 

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Karma is good so others fvck up their own life because they don't ask themselves that question.
 

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There is no ultimate meaning to existence. There is no karma, there is no God, there is not an ultimate goal to which everything is directed.
It sucks a lot, but gives you radical raw freedom.
As for your specific situation its up to you to decide if you are doing wrong or not. But don't worry, there's nothing supranatural coming back to you in the future, but there's always people that might want to hurt you if you did wrong to them.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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HoneyHitter

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I believe in proof, probability and verifiable facts. Karma is nonsense.

There are innocent people dying everyday. And there also terrible people living the longest, most enjoyable lives possible.

Life will never be fair, so deal with it just the way it is.
 

beforeimgone

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Hey guys just wanted your opinion on this matter.

Currently i am seeing a woman who i am in a commited relationship with.. been dating 6 months now, and things are pretty serious..

I am 40 years old.. and she is 44 years old..

Now i agree at this early point of the relationship i should still be spinning plates.. but i get this feeling that if i cheat on her.. then that shiit is going to come back and hit me hard one day..


If i do wrong by her, then i guess its only a matter of time, till Karma deals with me in a similar way..

What are your opinions on this matter???

Personally, I don't believe in karma; however, I am a huge advocate of it.
 

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Real men don't cheat, they have the b@lls to end it first if they feel compelled to do so.
 

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I believe in the law of cause and effect....

or the law of reaping and sowing...

You're reaping right now exactly what you sowed in the past. And you'll reap in the
future the seeds that you're sowing right now.

What you reap is what you sow.

So I never really looked at that as Karma, but it is classed as karma.
http://www.social-consciousness.com...laws-of-karma-that-will-change-your-life.html

The pendulum has to swing equally in both directions..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Karma, no karma - lying is for strokers

Be straight with yourself and you don't have to worry about being straight with others.
I think this is a great pearl of wisdom. I believe in being honest and trying of living my life as happy as I can without hurting others. Sometimes you fail at that, but if you are thinking beforehand that doing X or Y would hurt another people that doesn't deserve it why going in that direction?
 

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Real men don't cheat, they have the b@lls to end it first if they feel compelled to do so.
Yes, if I'm with a lady, she's my lady... I don't cheat!! It shows lack of character/integrity. Not who I am.
 

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I believe in the law of cause and effect....

or the law of reaping and sowing...

You're reaping right now exactly what you sowed in the past. And you'll reap in the
future the seeds that you're sowing right now.

What you reap is what you sow.

So I never really looked at that as Karma, but it is classed as karma.
http://www.social-consciousness.com...laws-of-karma-that-will-change-your-life.html

The pendulum has to swing equally in both directions..

How could the law of cause and effect possibly touch you if no one knows that you are the cause of all the fvckery?
 

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How could the law of cause and effect possibly touch you if no one knows that you are the cause of all the fvckery?
So if I were to punch you in the eye socket....

You're implying that the law of cause and effect states that somebody else must hold me accountable for my deeds......I think your missing the bigger picture. You're just looking at the surface level.

Here, listen to Bob:

Read Crime and Punishment
http://www.amazon.com/Crime-Punishment-Fyodor-Dostoyevsky/dp/0486415872
 

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think there is something whether it be karma, cause & effect, power of the universe, god, etc. However, most of the definitions of what it is are tied to movements and/or groups with other beliefs that I don't condone nor approve of. I'd just rather take the best of the knowledge that's being offered and form my own opinion about it. I'm not going to try and understand what that 'thing' is, but I realize it's there to help make 5hit right.
 

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I am 40 years old.. and she is 44 years old..
Men age into cheating, women age out of cheating. You never hear about female politicans ensnared in cheating sex scandals, not because of virtue but because they are ugly. At 44, a woman's capacity to find a new lover, of desirability, is greatly diminishing, depending on how hard she is hitting the wall. Demi Moore, 53, is reportedly still not over Ashton Kutcher.

How a woman reacts to being cheated on also depends on how much alpha or beta you are. If a man is alpha, women are inclined to blame themselves and make excuses, whereas betas are scorned.

With that said, it's better to drop her than to cheat.
 

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I believe in proof, probability and verifiable facts. Karma is nonsense.

There are innocent people dying everyday. And there also terrible people living the longest, most enjoyable lives possible.

Life will never be fair, so deal with it just the way it is.
Kharma is SOMEWHAT real. For example, behaving a certain way towards others will cause your energy to align a certain way and will cause you to catch the type of attention that energy gathers.

Kharma in a social context is easy to understand. Say if a lot of people are in your business against your will. your actions will echo and ripple through the social circle. So you can't do everyone dirty or half a$$ because they will know and eventually block or stop dealing with you.

The other thing is situationally there is kharma and it's all due to the energy of the situation and your and the other persons mentality.

Like for example it's usually not a good idea to "steal" someones gf/bf/wife/husband, because history has told us that the relationship will usually fail in the same way. So no matter how much you lie to yourself, underneath all those lies is the truth and the situation was based on pure lust and opportunity. Thoese feelings will have to be dealt with at a later time and it's usually a breakup due to the lack of trust on both parties behalves.

So it is somewhat true. But yes people get away with a lot of evil and it seems nothing happens to them. However people around them become hurt, loved ones, and also get some evil which causes them on obtuse paths in life and things happen to them.

So $hit does happen.

In the end be aware of the person you choose to be and represent and ensure most of your actions are congruent.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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