"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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do you bang girls you dont really find attractive?

pyros

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Hi, I have this question.
Do you bang or date girls you dont really find attractive (HB5-6) while you0re looking for something better?


Thanks.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Who Dares Win

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No way I would ever date a girl that I dont find attractive, that would really depress me and put me in a bad mood even if I wanted.

Regarding banging them I did it some time either for cleaning the pipe in case of dry spells or just to make my notch count grow, after you reached a minimum number of bangs you no longer feel such a urge of self validating yourself.

So one thing is banging and an other is dating.
 

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I asked about this recently, and received a bunch of responses basically calling me an AFC still. Here is how I look at it: As long as you're honest when asked about your views on you two baning, you are not doing anything wrong. People get together and hook up all the time. That is nothing new. Just don't lead them on, or lie to them, because then you're an @sshole. The dreaded question is going to come eventually...be prepared to answer it, and be prepared that you're probably going to hurt her, but just be honest, and tell her that every memory with her was a good one.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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its good to have them in your back pockets when the 8 9 and 10's act dumb,at least you know you can get some when you want to,ltr dating no way dude.
 

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I had an opportunity to bang 2 chicks last year that I didn't find attractive and hell no I tried to imagine banging them and I couldn't get turned on by that alone now imagine I had them naked in the bed? I was worried about getting a hard on. So I ask my self, how am I suppose to get a hard on by banging a girl I don't find attractive?
 

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Jair213 said:
I had an opportunity to bang 2 chicks last year that I didn't find attractive and hell no I tried to imagine banging them and I couldn't get turned on by that alone now imagine I had them naked in the bed? I was worried about getting a hard on. So I ask my self, how am I suppose to get a hard on by banging a girl I don't find attractive?
ever heard of a " double bag" ? :crackup: :crackup:
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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plate's_empty

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switch said:
ever heard of a " double bag" ? :crackup: :crackup:
You wear one too just in case hers falls off?

Yeah, "not attractive" I'm guessing means you wouldn't take her out to dinner or bring her around your friends. 5's and 6's.... like one of the posters said, they're great for dry spells. Sometimes jerking it's better but a lot of the "not attractive" girls have some redeeming qualitys you can focus on. I'm not a big fan of banging ugos or fatties even when I'm **** canned. But taking down a few 5's and 6's can keep you from reeking of desperation while you're trying to bag an 8 or a 9.
 

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do you bang girls you dont really find attractive?

If you have any weird kinks or sick twisted sh!t you'd like to do to a woman, they are great for that.
 

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Girls I find 100% unattractive, no. But usually with 5s and 6s there's stuff about them that I do find attractive and stuff I don't. That's why they're 5s and not 10s or 1s.

So a girl might have a fantastic set of tits but be pretty darn ugly. I'll just bang her and look at the tits ;) Or if she's cute but chubby she can always give bl*wjobs. Or if she's not bangable at all she can introduce me to women who are.

You can always find good use for a girl you're not all that into. :D
 

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When I first started out I would settle for 5s for experience. This was merely nights when I was drunk and needed some booty. As I got better thought I would refuse to settle. I had a fb that wasn't particularly attractive, but it was convenient and I didn't have to deal with any bs. She was down for whatever. I'm in a LTR now and she's probably a 7, but if I was single, I wouldn't settle for anything less than a 6 unless I was in a huge dry spell.

BTW don't underestimate these girls especially in the BJ department. Fat girl=best BJ I ever had.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No. Can't shoot pool with rope.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
Fat girl=best BJ I ever had.

I have said the same thing many times.

I concur, but the sight of them without clothes on makes me feel ashamed/sickened afterwards...

I decided I'd rather have my hand than see that.
 

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"Every loser in Vegas thinks they can do better! You know what winners do? They walk away from the table while they're up! " Coakley
 

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This may sound strange....

I'd much rather hook up with a chick with a bad body but an amazing face. Face it (no pun), you have to deal with that face for 98% of the time you are not having sex with her and they can always improve their bodies to some extent.

I have messed around with a few girls with great bodies and bad faces. I had trouble keeping it hard!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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