Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Exactly. Though affection only works if I like the girl enough. Good enough to be a GF and I welcome the affection.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:I enjoy women for their superficial outer qualities such as sex and affection and not their wicked hypergamous sociopathic inner core.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That's what I think, they make a great balance. Yin and yang and all that. I certainly enjoy their company. A lot of the younger guys here complain that they can't talk about sports or whatever with women. But men can be annoying too.LorenzoVonM said:Love women and love their company. I think feminine energy is a great balance to the masculine.
It's no surprise that the most attractive women are taken. I think Backbreaker said something to the effect that by the time you get into your 30s, all the first rounders have been snatched up, and that makes a lot of sense. The most sexy, fun, and beautiful women aren't going to be on the market long before they get snatched up. Chances are, you aren't the first guy to notice them.Warrior74 said:The women who's company I enjoy would not be enjoyed by my penis and vice versa. The rare time we both would enjoy her, she's married or with someone.
I have a theory that men tend to grow to prefer women's company as they get older. No proof here, just a theory, I'd like to see what others think of it.Zarky said:All my friends except one are women. Most are ex-girlfriends LOL
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
PairPlusRoyalFlush said:I enjoy women for their superficial outer qualities such as sex and affection and not their wicked hypergamous sociopathic inner core.
Guys, see a shrink. I'm serious.Scormus said:Exactly. Though affection only works if I like the girl enough. Good enough to be a GF and I welcome the affection.
That core is repulsive to me.
I feel the same as this, which is a nice place to be imo.backbreaker said:I enjoy my wife's company she's very light hearted and always upbeat. she puts me in a pretty good mood more times than not.
Yeah, until I met my current girlfriend, I thought that *****iness was just a trait that all women shared. But she is probably the most laid back, mellow person I've even known, male or female.backbreaker said:I enjoy my wife's company she's very light hearted and always upbeat. she puts me in a pretty good mood more times than not.
It's hard to be crazy about that idea, true. Seems to be part of the equation though. There's nothing to be done about it, so it doesn't really bother me. And I also never allow myself to be totally invested. I always figure if I lose a girl, there's always another one waiting to take her place.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:Personally, I'm not "im love" with the idea that I could be emotionally invested in an opposite sex that will often leave me if I lose my job I.e. kick me when down.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I had to think about this question. I enjoy being around women who behave like adult women and have good demeanors, femininity and grasp on life and its hardships. A feminine, real woman is great to have around provided she isn't completely physically repulsive. The second I start seeing the gossip, insecurity, male shaming (omg he's a CREEPER), loudness/crudeness, self-centeredness and cattiness fly around, I'm turned off pretty fast and would rather be alone or spend my time with more worthy people.Scormus said:Seems I am in that camp now. Acting my way through dates, I only need them for what's between their legs.
Its the right head.WoodB said:, I tend the often think with the wrong head. Damnation!)
On second thought, you're right on the mark!Scormus said:Its the right head.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.