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It helps that a lot of the women I have dated see me as some sort of "father figure".
Attained experience/knowledge or not I’d say I also get a father figure role. Younger girls, in particular these 19-23 in my current environment. They mirror my opinions and views, some rapport. I’ve often shied away because it’s “wrong” and not the “responsible thing to do,” it feels like “power abuse.” Lulz. This principle of being “responsible” has even gone so far as not accepting an obvious come-on from a guest at my dinner party, because “I was the host.” Wtf. No comment. Even delirious. I think I can carve out these things myself, but suggestions for addressing this kind of beta behavior is appreciated.

On the other hand, I’ve seen the father-thingy as a concern, because it to me feels like some kind of friend zone. Maybe I’m right. I don’t want to be a trusty teddybear for them, but maybe that’s a good start. The task is to turn it sexual and into dominance, “daddy gonna show you.” I guess I shouldn’t be afraid or feel shameful for that power position.

Some on Twitter post about that a sign of attraction is the “cheering” and copying of the man they adore, so I guess it’s a general trait of women. One should be proud. Maybe we’re wrong in titling it “father figure”, it’s more about simply being a man.

I don’t know about your perspective, @Zimbabwe.
 

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There's a rule in business that I heard of that basically says whoever speaks business first loses, does this apply to dating?
There is also this saying that goes: "You can never say the wrong thing to the right person".


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I think it's situational. Do whatever you want.

One of the things I dislike about the PUA community is that it's become so robotic and almost like a series of mathematic equations.

If girl does A then you do B and result is C.. etc. Where is the fun in that?

I've been on dates and texted them right when I got home that I had a good time, and some of them became LTR or FWBs.

If a girl is interested, it won't matter.

You could text a girl you had fun and she gets excited and wants to see you again the very next day and you end up smashing her, and get the lay that much sooner.

You could also ignore her until she texts you, but what if the text never comes? Maybe you didn't show enough interest during the date and she wanted to see you show more initiative, but she was still interested.. now you will never know.

The problem with dating is that there is so many variables involved and "textbook advice" is not always the best advice.

If you're truly an "alpha male", then you do whatever the fvck you want.
 
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I think it's situational. Do whatever you want.

One of the things I dislike about the PUA community is that it's become so robotic and almost like a series of mathematic equations.

If girl does A then you do B and result is C.. etc. Where is the fun in that?

I've been on dates and texted them right when I got home that I had a good time, and some of them became LTR or FWBs.

If a girl is interested, it won't matter.

You could text a girl you had fun and she gets excited and wants to see you again the very next day and you end up smashing her, and get the lay that much sooner.

You could also ignore her until she texts you, but what if the text never comes? Maybe you didn't show enough interest during the date and she wanted to see you show more initiative, but she was still interested.. now you will never know.

The problem with dating is that there is so many variables involved and "textbook advice" is not always the best advice.

If you're truly an alpha male, then you do whatever the fvck you want.
Totally agree.

On another note using the word alpha male is super cringe xD
 

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On the other hand, I’ve seen the father-thingy as a concern, because it to me feels like some kind of friend zone. Maybe I’m right. I don’t want to be a trusty teddybear for them, but maybe that’s a good start. The task is to turn it sexual and into dominance, “daddy gonna show you.” I guess I shouldn’t be afraid or feel shameful for that power position.
Your perspective is very different from mine, I always saw it as something natural and normal. A woman desires to be protected and cared for, if they had a bad relationship with their father they look for another male figure to latch onto, I've had the whole daddy daughter thing be both sexual and outside the bedroom.( I used to have a gf that would buy me fathers day gifts). It might seem weird to most people but it's a role i really enjoy, I feel protective and in control.


Some on Twitter post about that a sign of attraction is the “cheering” and copying of the man they adore, so I guess it’s a general trait of women. One should be proud. Maybe we’re wrong in titling it “father figure”, it’s more about simply being a man.
Well if we look at Freudian Psychology it is known as the electra complex, it does have basis in anthropology because most women seem to subconsciously date men that remind them of their own fathers.

I do agree with your last point that it's simply being a man, A man is supposed to protect and care for his family not this "equality" nonsense.
 
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