Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do we need relationship education?

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Simple question.

Do we need relationship education or is every relationship the education itself.

I mean, we generate patterns during childhood and adolescence which will be for some people (like me) a weak resource/fall-back where you build relationships on.
We can only rely on our (un)healthy parents.

I mean, as we are creating/making our patterns, wouldn't it be wise to have a regular check to correct your pattern building in time in order to avoid emotional battlefields later?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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And who will be providing this education? Feminists? What will the contents of that education be?

You can easily see the slippery slope already.
 

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Isn't that the function of this site?

I don't subscribe to some of the more acrid rhetoric here but I understand the site is about masculine empowerment (Hooray) and self-improvement toward self validation and self esteem, all things that one is well served to strive toward & accomplish in life generally and in interpersonal relationships.

When men internalize their own worth and come to a place where they lead their own affairs it becomes the most natural thing in the world for a good woman to follow that and support such a man.

It also becomes very easy for such a man to determine rather efficiently if a woman is worth his precious time.

Always ditch a poor match. No matter how pretty, how sexy, how exciting.

Men with high value do not tolerate poor quality goods wrapped in an appealing package.

This is accomplished by paying attention & being engaged in the interaction. Being engaged allows a man to jettison if he sees indications she isn't worthwhile but also lays the basis for emotional investment if she is worthwhile.

Either way you, as the man, reside unequivocally in the driver's seat where you belong.
 

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Men and women are getting relationship 'education' every day thanks to the media. Men are already being taught to be bluepill supplicants and women are taught that if they want something they can have it.

Do you teally trust a modern liberal government to give good advice to men about anything!
 

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Do you teally trust a modern liberal government to give good advice to men about anything!
I never said a gov should educate me. They did in the past and the outcome is: waste of time. :)

There are people very strong in maintaining healthy relationships. They are the experts to share their wisdom, experience. It's not a waterproof science, but at least they are better in it.
It's like other facets of life. I want experts around me, smarter people than me on certain points to learn, to grow.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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daddymonsterpoodle

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Fair comment... I agree. I have done marriage counselling with a relationship expert. God I love being si gle.
 
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