"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Do we need relationship education?

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Simple question.

Do we need relationship education or is every relationship the education itself.

I mean, we generate patterns during childhood and adolescence which will be for some people (like me) a weak resource/fall-back where you build relationships on.
We can only rely on our (un)healthy parents.

I mean, as we are creating/making our patterns, wouldn't it be wise to have a regular check to correct your pattern building in time in order to avoid emotional battlefields later?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BetterCallSaul

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And who will be providing this education? Feminists? What will the contents of that education be?

You can easily see the slippery slope already.
 

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Isn't that the function of this site?

I don't subscribe to some of the more acrid rhetoric here but I understand the site is about masculine empowerment (Hooray) and self-improvement toward self validation and self esteem, all things that one is well served to strive toward & accomplish in life generally and in interpersonal relationships.

When men internalize their own worth and come to a place where they lead their own affairs it becomes the most natural thing in the world for a good woman to follow that and support such a man.

It also becomes very easy for such a man to determine rather efficiently if a woman is worth his precious time.

Always ditch a poor match. No matter how pretty, how sexy, how exciting.

Men with high value do not tolerate poor quality goods wrapped in an appealing package.

This is accomplished by paying attention & being engaged in the interaction. Being engaged allows a man to jettison if he sees indications she isn't worthwhile but also lays the basis for emotional investment if she is worthwhile.

Either way you, as the man, reside unequivocally in the driver's seat where you belong.
 

daddymonsterpoodle

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Men and women are getting relationship 'education' every day thanks to the media. Men are already being taught to be bluepill supplicants and women are taught that if they want something they can have it.

Do you teally trust a modern liberal government to give good advice to men about anything!
 

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Do you teally trust a modern liberal government to give good advice to men about anything!
I never said a gov should educate me. They did in the past and the outcome is: waste of time. :)

There are people very strong in maintaining healthy relationships. They are the experts to share their wisdom, experience. It's not a waterproof science, but at least they are better in it.
It's like other facets of life. I want experts around me, smarter people than me on certain points to learn, to grow.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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daddymonsterpoodle

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Fair comment... I agree. I have done marriage counselling with a relationship expert. God I love being si gle.
 
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