"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do we need relationship education?

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Simple question.

Do we need relationship education or is every relationship the education itself.

I mean, we generate patterns during childhood and adolescence which will be for some people (like me) a weak resource/fall-back where you build relationships on.
We can only rely on our (un)healthy parents.

I mean, as we are creating/making our patterns, wouldn't it be wise to have a regular check to correct your pattern building in time in order to avoid emotional battlefields later?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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And who will be providing this education? Feminists? What will the contents of that education be?

You can easily see the slippery slope already.
 

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Isn't that the function of this site?

I don't subscribe to some of the more acrid rhetoric here but I understand the site is about masculine empowerment (Hooray) and self-improvement toward self validation and self esteem, all things that one is well served to strive toward & accomplish in life generally and in interpersonal relationships.

When men internalize their own worth and come to a place where they lead their own affairs it becomes the most natural thing in the world for a good woman to follow that and support such a man.

It also becomes very easy for such a man to determine rather efficiently if a woman is worth his precious time.

Always ditch a poor match. No matter how pretty, how sexy, how exciting.

Men with high value do not tolerate poor quality goods wrapped in an appealing package.

This is accomplished by paying attention & being engaged in the interaction. Being engaged allows a man to jettison if he sees indications she isn't worthwhile but also lays the basis for emotional investment if she is worthwhile.

Either way you, as the man, reside unequivocally in the driver's seat where you belong.
 

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Men and women are getting relationship 'education' every day thanks to the media. Men are already being taught to be bluepill supplicants and women are taught that if they want something they can have it.

Do you teally trust a modern liberal government to give good advice to men about anything!
 

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Do you teally trust a modern liberal government to give good advice to men about anything!
I never said a gov should educate me. They did in the past and the outcome is: waste of time. :)

There are people very strong in maintaining healthy relationships. They are the experts to share their wisdom, experience. It's not a waterproof science, but at least they are better in it.
It's like other facets of life. I want experts around me, smarter people than me on certain points to learn, to grow.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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daddymonsterpoodle

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Fair comment... I agree. I have done marriage counselling with a relationship expert. God I love being si gle.
 
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