Well there's been some things I haven't quite made "clear" to myself yet - so I'd like to get other people's opinions or learn the "rules" (if there are any) for the following inquiries directed toward a girl you are interested in pursuing a relationship with.
A.)Do you ever ask them (when you just want to know right away - like after 1st date, so you can decide if it's time to 'next' her and move on) "Do you see us being more than friends?" - the reason why I'm thinking about asking this is because the girl is... I don't know maybe unexperienced at dating and/or shy - she doesn't know what she wants yet, so she's not being all that open. I'm not sure that she gets the message I don't want to be "friends," but she hasn't said we were "friends" either so... it's kind of left open.
B.)Do you ever ask, "Well, how do you feel towards me?" - I'm not sure if that question gets you anywhere...but I guess it would help give me a better understanding, for my own good.
That's all I can really think of that I might ask for now. I'm comfortable with the girl, and I think she would be comfortable answering these questions. I just need to find out if this sh*t is going anywhere b/c she lives like 30min away and I mean... I don't want to just be friends. I made the mistake of not being more aggressive on the date or while we spent time together as far as kino, but we did have some "sensual talk" which she initiated. Overall, good minus the kino.
I'm tired of guessing, and I want to get direct, the clock is ticking.
Thanks for anything.
A.)Do you ever ask them (when you just want to know right away - like after 1st date, so you can decide if it's time to 'next' her and move on) "Do you see us being more than friends?" - the reason why I'm thinking about asking this is because the girl is... I don't know maybe unexperienced at dating and/or shy - she doesn't know what she wants yet, so she's not being all that open. I'm not sure that she gets the message I don't want to be "friends," but she hasn't said we were "friends" either so... it's kind of left open.
B.)Do you ever ask, "Well, how do you feel towards me?" - I'm not sure if that question gets you anywhere...but I guess it would help give me a better understanding, for my own good.
That's all I can really think of that I might ask for now. I'm comfortable with the girl, and I think she would be comfortable answering these questions. I just need to find out if this sh*t is going anywhere b/c she lives like 30min away and I mean... I don't want to just be friends. I made the mistake of not being more aggressive on the date or while we spent time together as far as kino, but we did have some "sensual talk" which she initiated. Overall, good minus the kino.
I'm tired of guessing, and I want to get direct, the clock is ticking.
Thanks for anything.
