SirFratserlot
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Some guy mentioned it in some other topic and this happens to me as well. I thought they were all just fake gestures that make the dysfunctions of American culture.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Do smiles from random girls mean anything
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Purefilth
Master Don Juan
Go Introduce yourself, try for a makeout and a number close.
YOU WILL NEVER KNOW UNLESS YOU ACT UPON IT.
Personally -I find Its normally a RESPONSE to a smile I have offered first (since we already know the woman respond to men - and rarely try to LEAD or START an interaction). I take it as an INVITATION TO APPROACH .
So. the next smile you get - go ACT upon it and Find out for yourself WHAT IT MEANS.
(I see why PHM does the bolds and reds - Its so much fun!! )
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Just make a goddamn move and you'll see what it's really about!
Case closed. Call the next case.
Case closed. Call the next case.
A smile from a woman is not just a good sign, it's the #1 indication of interest, especially if you are seeing someone for the first time. It's called a buying sign. If she holds eye contact and smiles you need to get over there. It won't matter what you say. She already likes you by that point and body language is 75% of communication.
However sometimes it might just be a "I think you're cute" smile but they aren't available. In that case just let it brighten your day, and know that other women of that caliber will think the exact same things about you that she did, especially at that moment.
When a person likes what they see their pupils will get bigger so they can see more of it (they :gives you the eye"). They almost always smile in that case. If a person doesn't like you their her pupils get smaller to block you out (they "give you a dirty look"). They hardly ever smile in that case. Subconsciously, we are trained to perceive the difference.
For example, last week I was walking through a crowded outdoor concert and it was mostly old people but suddenly I turned to my left and saw a real beauty, only a foot away. She looked deep in my eyes and then I got a big smile, but it was just as my momentum carried me past her. I didn't process it until I was a few steps past and it would have been too weird to stop and go back (though if you are brave enough, do it).
I stopped for a drink nearby to give the situation a chance to develop. She glanced my way but she didn't send any more overtures. It was a dance which personally I can't stand because you can't hear and you feel obligated to ask them to dance (or they fear you will). But she was one of the prettiest girls I had seen in a long time, so I knew I was having a good night. So I went to another bar and got the phone numbers (and dates from) 2 other hot girls almost immediately. But God I wish I talked to that other girl.
A man's character is judged by the decisions he makes in a split second. Remember: sometimes you'll spend years thinking of missed opportunities, but you'll never regret having been shot down.
However sometimes it might just be a "I think you're cute" smile but they aren't available. In that case just let it brighten your day, and know that other women of that caliber will think the exact same things about you that she did, especially at that moment.
When a person likes what they see their pupils will get bigger so they can see more of it (they :gives you the eye"). They almost always smile in that case. If a person doesn't like you their her pupils get smaller to block you out (they "give you a dirty look"). They hardly ever smile in that case. Subconsciously, we are trained to perceive the difference.
For example, last week I was walking through a crowded outdoor concert and it was mostly old people but suddenly I turned to my left and saw a real beauty, only a foot away. She looked deep in my eyes and then I got a big smile, but it was just as my momentum carried me past her. I didn't process it until I was a few steps past and it would have been too weird to stop and go back (though if you are brave enough, do it).
I stopped for a drink nearby to give the situation a chance to develop. She glanced my way but she didn't send any more overtures. It was a dance which personally I can't stand because you can't hear and you feel obligated to ask them to dance (or they fear you will). But she was one of the prettiest girls I had seen in a long time, so I knew I was having a good night. So I went to another bar and got the phone numbers (and dates from) 2 other hot girls almost immediately. But God I wish I talked to that other girl.
A man's character is judged by the decisions he makes in a split second. Remember: sometimes you'll spend years thinking of missed opportunities, but you'll never regret having been shot down.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
5string
Master Don Juan
Danger smiles at me all the time but I never read anything into it.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Means very little. I would say negligible. I acted many times on a smile and strong eye contact and it got my no a no date. The only thing it is is a small indicator that you "may" approach her to talk or get her number or more. Of all these IOI's, I'm beginning to think body language is the worse to go on. That's just my opinion based on what happened to me. It's a weird science at best.
Uncharted
Master Don Juan
To me, it means she would not mind if you approached her or said "Hi". No guarantee of anything else. Worth a shot though.
Vice
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*sigh*SirFratserlot said:
If she smiles with her eyes, it's a genuine smile. If her eyes to not smile, it's contrived and you should ignore it.
As far as "dysfunctions of American culture" goes, you're going to have to find a way to exploit it because it's not going to change. It's only going to get worse.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
Why that two-timing son of a .......!5string said: