"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do negs work on HBs who take themselves too seriously?

pete101

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Some hot girls take themselves so seriously that if you neg them they get offended and started defending themselves. I think this is counterproductive to you trying to open her up, are you suppose to avoid these girls completely even if they're hot and you want to fvck them?

It's all well and good saying to next her but soooo many hot girls are like this, will negs still work?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Unbridled_Phoenix

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She doesn't realize that by defending herself against you, she's actually qualifying herself TO you.

But don't go overboard with the negs, or eventually her rational mind WILL take over, and your name is Mudd.
 

Sandow

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Negs arent some kind of blue-print. theres no magic bullet where some kind of routine works every time. That being said, every girl is different, you can't generalize and say some routine only works on hot girls, average girls, rich girls, etc. every girl is different and its entirely up to you to read her and find out what kind of girl she is. Is she funny and laid back? Or Does she lack a sense of humor and always serious? A true DJ can read a girl instantly and knows exactly what kind of girl he's dealing with.

If she is one of those stuck biatches, i personally wouldnt even bother. i cant stand girls like that. but if you must, then yea only a few negs work, like only 1 or 2. negs are ok, they can be funny at times, but if you over do it then you just look like a weirdo. what matters more is your frame of mind and your demeanor.
 

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Unbridled_Phoenix said:
She doesn't realize that by defending herself against you, she's actually qualifying herself TO you.

But don't go overboard with the negs, or eventually her rational mind WILL take over, and your name is Mudd.
So she's qualifying herself.

But when she's doing this, how do you respond successfully?

"Don't worry your good enough for me"?

"Your lucky enough to be hanging with me so your all set"?
 

MisterMcGee

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You should read the DJ bible, or try as hard as you can to get out of this mindset and into a more enjoyable one.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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