"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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do it democraticly

check_mate_kid_uk

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people keep complaining about the moderators, currently they get appointed by Allen and it is his choice, and people seem to think the moderators are creating some sort of dictatorship :confused:

well how about we get to vote who allen apoints as mod's if it bothers you so much.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
people keep complaining about the moderators, currently they get appointed by Allen and it is his choice, and people seem to think the moderators are creating some sort of dictatorship :confused:

well how about we get to vote who allen apoints as mod's if it bothers you so much.
theres certain people about who give me the feel they are trying to become mods.

these people i wouldn't want as mods.

but it'd be really hard to pick who would make a good mod.
 

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Having a vote for moderators would simply allow the more well-known and popular posters to win, regardless of any qualification that they may have. I say leave it the way it is.
 

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Oh for God's sake, does it matter?
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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Originally posted by WesCottII
Oh for God's sake, does it matter?
well it shouldnt have to yet it seems to be a topic with a lot of contriversy hanging over it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The mods are always coming under fire, but personally I don't get why. They do a good job and their decisions to close threads etc are perfectly reasonable from my point of view.
 

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Well, i believe in something called freedom of speech. It seems some moderators are a little over zealous when it comes to deleting threads, etc.

I think the only things that should be deleted are spam or major trolls. Otherwise, don't try to dictate what people can or can't express.
 

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Originally posted by Jariel
The mods are always coming under fire, but personally I don't get why. They do a good job and their decisions to close threads etc are perfectly reasonable from my point of view.
Couldn't agree more. At the end of the day we shouldn't really be complaining, because we shouldn't be here, we should be out there, in the real world, not splitting hairs over who has power on an internet forum.
 
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