"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Do I tell my fiance that I'm a stalker?

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This has been eating at me since our engagement. I first "met" with her on PoF. A couple of quick messages back and forth. Nothing ever materialized. I bookmarked her profile and would periodically check it for months. Then I started Facebook stalking her for about 4 years. She listed her profession, which was in retail, and I showed up to her place of employment and charmed her. I got her phone number, we started dating, and the rest is history.

I'm a little apprehensive to bring this revelation to her, because I'm unsure on how she would handle it.

Any thoughts?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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WOw dude XDDDDDDDDDDDDDdd that was the creepiest post ive read since the RichardTheFrog times


dont tell her
 
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You shouldn't have even posted this.

This is the kind of shyte you need to keep to yourself, not even share it anonymously online.

Whether you tell her now or not doesn't really matter.

It will come out eventually and it will sour the relationship.

Just out of curiosity, during the four year stalking period, did you actually date or have relationships with other women?
 
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taiyuu_otoko said:
You shouldn't have even posted this.

This is the kind of shyte you need to keep to yourself, not even share it anonymously online.

Whether you tell her now or not doesn't really matter.

It will come out eventually and it will sour the relationship.

Just out of curiosity, during the four year stalking period, did you actually date or have relationships with other women?
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no he more sounds like some unpopular dude with no women in his life

i mean how could you stalk girl for 4 yrs? what was the point of adding a tinder girl on facebook, girl that previously ghosted you on tinder
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I never added her on Facebook. I just looked at her profile. And the reason I perused her was because I wanted to prove to myself that I could get her.
 
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That's not the half of it, lol. She would always talk about Hawaii on Facebook and how much she loved it. Well, when I went into her place of work, I made sure I was wearing a Honolulu shirt.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Have to admit, a part of me thinks you are a goddamn genius by meeting her this way.
 
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All you people judging this dude need to get your heads out of your ass. We all have done stuff like this.

But to answer your question......NO, do not tell her.
 
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Lol this is classic right here
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Other than your conscience feeling a little 'cleansed' the end result will not be favorable.
Normally, I would say "probably not be favorable" but I speak from repeated failed experience of opening up a little too much. No matter 'how different' you think she is, don't do it.

As far as some of the flack you've gotten from a few members here... pay not attention. We've *all* done what you've done to some degree. Perhaps it's a case of sour-grapes because theirs didn't pay off as well as yours?

Your efforts paid off.
Cheers!
 
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No. Don't do it. Think about it. How useful is that information to her? Will breaking the news improve the relationship? no, it will not. See how some of us are quick to say that your actions were creepy. She will believe you are nuts. If she does not brake up.She will use it to manipulate you. Never tell a woman how much you love her. You don't know her in the first time. If sex life is good, keep on banging her. It was 4 years of stalking pal. That is alot. If you want to tell her, wait until you are in your 70s and married to her. Not now.
 
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Share this story as you are toasting her on your 50th wedding anniversary at a party with your friends and family, or as a eulogy if she passes before you. Not a moment before....
 
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Oh hell no ! You will kill the entire fantasy for her. You met and swept her off her feet. Just like she’s dreamed would happen her entire life.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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