"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do I tell my fiance that I'm a stalker?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I knew a guy who was pretty relentless when he went for a woman. No matter how long it took, he would get her. It was interesting.
Unless I’m mistaken, either it was Don Juan or Casanova, but he would even dress up as another woman to get close to his target, usually a married woman. It wouldn’t draw attention as it would just look like two women. But he would eventually get into her bed chamber.
Try reframing it as persistence. Stalking is a modern term that’s politically charged. Personally if it’s bugging you just don’t use that word.
I would just move on if a woman isn’t interested. Now that she’s with you....LMAO
Have you ever considered that she is more socially astute than you and that she knows exactly what happened and actually “assisted”?
If she wasn’t interested she would have blocked you. duh! I’m curious as to who caught who.
Bokanovsky
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You are pestilent, I'll give you that. Do not, under any circumstances, tell her what you have just posted here. It would be the biggest mistake you've ever made.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
mrgoodstuff
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I wouldn't advocate trying to "impress" any babes. But i get it, so many are superficial and will fall.... For a while.
That’s right, a man’s impression on a woman is only a byproduct on her of the man he is and Not something he strives for. To do so would only be a trivial and superficial act…
The measure of a man is the effect he has on others without trying, aka, being who he naturally is…
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He probably used a "nom de guerre" to open his Facebook account. By doing so, she couldn't trace him. Remember, he has declared himself a "stalker".
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Though we both agree that “stalking”’is feminine, I don’t think she’s dumb. I think he’s dumb for not knowing that she picked him up.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Suave88
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You think you know her, don't you? That is why you want to tell her. You don't know her. In fact, she had other men while you were stalking her. She chose you last. Don't say a word about it and keep on banging her.
mrgoodstuff
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I watched the show and the white knight socially unaware guy killed the bf who understands his traiterous gf.... The professor told her something...