"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Do I still have a chance?

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I am a junior in high school and have never had a relationship with a girl before, no matter how much I have tried. this year though, I became interested in this girl. We only have one class together and I see her in the hallway alot. At first I would smile at her and say hi. She was really receptive and began smiling at me. Before I go any further, I need to mention that I have some friends on the girls basketball team that asked me to go to their games. So I went and it turns out that this girl I was interested in was also on the team. I used this to start up a conversation and gradually I started to get to know her. I thought everything was going fine. She was nice and gave all the signs she was interested in me. However, all of a sudden, the more I talked to her the more distant she acted towards me. I asked her to do something after school twice and both times she said no. The second time she told me to go away and that I was annoying. What the **** happened? When I talked to her friend she said that it seemed like I tried to hard to get her attention. Is there anyway to fix this or should I just forget it?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Grand Wizzard Alamar

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You can do WAY better than her.
She doesn't fvckin deserve you... forget about her next that b!tch, how dare she call you annoying and refuse your generousness of letting HER hang out with YOU.
Yup she sounds like a complete b!tch, and you shouldn't treat her or any girl that nicely. Don't even think about trying to fix it, cause you can't fix her and she's a complete waste of time.
Trust me man, you'd be so much happier without her. Cause you sure aint happy now.
 

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Short answer: Yeah, drop her like she's hot.

The long answer will be made available upon request.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Maybe, you came on a little strong. Maybe, she smelled fear. Maybe, your body language was wrong. Think back if you did something to blow your chance.

She turned your offer down twice. She ain't that interested in you unfortunitly. If you see her around school. Don't talk to her unless she talks to you first. Move ON!
 

Grand Wizzard Alamar

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Yeah this is a classic case of b!tch, but there usually are certain things that cause it. Look back and try to remember what she might have felt when you did certain things. Doesn't matter how you felt cause you're as good as a hypnotized slave when you've got oneitis.
 
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