Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Do I next her right away ?

Wiesman44

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This chick hit on me at a party last Saturday. We exchanged #'s. I call her up on Wednesday, and before I can really say anything she wants to meet for coffee today. I said i'd call her and we'll specify a time then between 4-6 b/c I was golfing and didnt know how long my round would take.


I call her at 330 and 5. No answer. My gut feeling is to next this chick no matter what her excuse is. There's no excuse for not even calling me quickly to tell me she couldnt make it.

I didnt even do any effort to get this girl. She wanted to meet me......wtf ? next her ?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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themanwithnoname

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indeed she may have wanted to meet with you, but you did not tell her when you wanted to meet, is it so hard to tell someone to meet at 8p?
 

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did u not read what I said. We were meeting for coffee. A quick hour or so. I told her i'd call no later than 4 and we'd probably meet around 5 or so. This was her idea to meet. Why she'd flake, i have no idea.
 

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Oh she's definitely interested. She was the one that hit on me, she gave me her #, she basically set up the date. But I'm thinking that someone who cant even follow up on a first date, should not be worthy of a re-scheduled date when they dont even have the nerve to cancel.

SO my question is basically, do I next a girl that does this ? I'm quite positive she's going to say, I'm sorry, blah blah blah.......but i dont want to give in.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She's got your number.. She'll call back.
 

Wiesman44

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all I have to say is "OOPS" .

Last night after I posted, I hung out w/ one of her friends. Ended up nailing the sh#t out of her. After we're done, at about 11:00, the chick i was supposed to meet earlier texts me and says she was sorry she couldnt make it, and the hungover, tired excuse, she went to a hotel party last night so it might have been genuine. I didnt care either way.

So here I, w/ one of her friends......all i was thinking was, well, she shouldnt have flaked......that'll teach her. Word will spread and she probably wont want to hang out again.


Not to brag, but I have a lot of girls after me, I'm a real good looking guy. My game might not be up to par, though. I'll definitely admit that. I just wanted to know if you guys would next a chick right away that flakes and doesnt call u to tell u she cant make it til like 8 hours after our date.

As a guy that dates a good amount of women, I think thats unacceptable,and wanted to know if u all feel the same.


Obviously, you all would give her a second chance. I dont do that. She could have called me. If she was the least bit respectful, she would have called before our meeting.
 
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