You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Originally posted by PoS
guys, i am being VERY serious. since last year, i have this uncontrollable anger, due to my afc-ness (no gf for two years), now i am at the point that everytime i see any guy with an attractive female, i want to swing my baseball bat and just beat the crap out of him.
damn .. i need to get laid before i hurt someone
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You are over reacting. As long as your anger does not control you and actually causes you to swing a bat at some guys head then you are just frustrated. Maybe you need to channel the anger at yourself and this will motivate you to be the best that you can be and thus be able to pick up women and get laid.Originally posted by PoS
guys, i am being VERY serious. since last year, i have this uncontrollable anger, due to my afc-ness (no gf for two years), now i am at the point that everytime i see any guy with an attractive female, i want to swing my baseball bat and just beat the crap out of him.
damn .. i need to get laid before i hurt someone
Uhh, who cares about the guys in jails? They're fvck ups. That's why they're there. The original poster *isn't* in jail yet. And if he wants to stay out of jail, he should work on self improvement.Originally posted by themanwithnoname
so you're saying you solve your anger problem by going after girls and seeing if you can get their number, tell that to the criminals in jails then.
may the force be with you jedi !Originally posted by PoS
now i am at the point that everytime i see any guy with an attractive female, i want to swing my baseball bat and just beat the crap out of him.
Why would he go to jail for asking a girl for her phone number? Obviously she wanted to give it to him if they hooked up....You're weird dude.Originally posted by themanwithnoname
so you're saying you solve your anger problem by going after girls and seeing if you can get their number, tell that to the criminals in jails then.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.