I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Originally posted by PoS
guys, i am being VERY serious. since last year, i have this uncontrollable anger, due to my afc-ness (no gf for two years), now i am at the point that everytime i see any guy with an attractive female, i want to swing my baseball bat and just beat the crap out of him.
damn .. i need to get laid before i hurt someone
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You are over reacting. As long as your anger does not control you and actually causes you to swing a bat at some guys head then you are just frustrated. Maybe you need to channel the anger at yourself and this will motivate you to be the best that you can be and thus be able to pick up women and get laid.Originally posted by PoS
guys, i am being VERY serious. since last year, i have this uncontrollable anger, due to my afc-ness (no gf for two years), now i am at the point that everytime i see any guy with an attractive female, i want to swing my baseball bat and just beat the crap out of him.
damn .. i need to get laid before i hurt someone
Uhh, who cares about the guys in jails? They're fvck ups. That's why they're there. The original poster *isn't* in jail yet. And if he wants to stay out of jail, he should work on self improvement.Originally posted by themanwithnoname
so you're saying you solve your anger problem by going after girls and seeing if you can get their number, tell that to the criminals in jails then.
may the force be with you jedi !Originally posted by PoS
now i am at the point that everytime i see any guy with an attractive female, i want to swing my baseball bat and just beat the crap out of him.
Why would he go to jail for asking a girl for her phone number? Obviously she wanted to give it to him if they hooked up....You're weird dude.Originally posted by themanwithnoname
so you're saying you solve your anger problem by going after girls and seeing if you can get their number, tell that to the criminals in jails then.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.