You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
i thought it to be a good example, being that quantum physics is the ultimate "what if" topicOriginally posted by SynTheUnscathed
Stop discussing quantum physics with people to make a point. Half the people here have no clue what you are talking about.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I never heard Dr. Drew give an explanation of the stoner voice; it’s so subtle that it’s probably hard to describe and takes a good ear. I could never figure out how they picked up on it, and I still can’t, although I’m getting better at my stoner radar. However, other voices are easy to discern. Virgins characteristically have a squeeky clean voice accompanied by anxiety and meth addicts have a white trashy voice.Silverback82:
did they say how their voices sound?
For some reason, the childish voice only applies to severe sexual abuse. Not abuse in general, not sexual abuse in general, but severe sexual abuse. Most women who were abused, sexually abused, don’t have a childish voice. The vast majority don’t. But it works the other way around. If you run across a woman with a childish voice, then she was sexually abused to the severity that (for whatever reason) she developed a childish voice.smoove:
I know for a fact tho it's not entirely accurate. I've known several girls who were abused and don't have kiddy voices.