Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
i thought it to be a good example, being that quantum physics is the ultimate "what if" topicOriginally posted by SynTheUnscathed
Stop discussing quantum physics with people to make a point. Half the people here have no clue what you are talking about.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I never heard Dr. Drew give an explanation of the stoner voice; it’s so subtle that it’s probably hard to describe and takes a good ear. I could never figure out how they picked up on it, and I still can’t, although I’m getting better at my stoner radar. However, other voices are easy to discern. Virgins characteristically have a squeeky clean voice accompanied by anxiety and meth addicts have a white trashy voice.Silverback82:
did they say how their voices sound?
For some reason, the childish voice only applies to severe sexual abuse. Not abuse in general, not sexual abuse in general, but severe sexual abuse. Most women who were abused, sexually abused, don’t have a childish voice. The vast majority don’t. But it works the other way around. If you run across a woman with a childish voice, then she was sexually abused to the severity that (for whatever reason) she developed a childish voice.smoove:
I know for a fact tho it's not entirely accurate. I've known several girls who were abused and don't have kiddy voices.