"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do girls like when a guy looses control?

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I had my salsa class again. But I think I messed up.

I danced with the same girl where there is a bit of a mutual attraction going. It was all well, some small talk, nothing deep. The class ends, everyone beings to get their stuff. We are walking out, she suggest she would not mind going dancing on Sunaday but does not want to go alone. There is a salsa event.

I say " hey why don't you give me your number?"
her : "okay .. its 23423432432"

(after this I did not know where I am going with it, its a Sunday so I am not sure of it, don't know if I will be hung over from the day before, if I will not feel like going etc. I was like a deer stuck in head lights. My mind started racing.. and I even went the wrong way in the elevator. I was lost. lol!.)

me: "some undetermined plan mumbling. "
me: "I will call you. "
her: "okay, if I am available"

I am probably over thinking this whole event. Its something new to me. Any who salsa is this Sunday. Today is Wednesday. But I want to take her to a coffee shop to get to know her better, as I don't know much about her.

Need some advice on when to call? I was thinking Friday. Should I just ignore the awkward moment, and not talk about it next time we meet? Kinda just want to chat a little before I take her dancing. What you guys/gals think? I think I made her feel as a backup plan, which I think is kinda a failure on my part. Good lesson though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Why do you say that. Is it to keep the tension going? To have more to talk about on the get together? The drive to the venue? Because seriously I don't even know her last name... It just be more comfortable, I think.
 
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Close physical contact with women breeds intimate thoughts - this is the natural order of things!!

Regular guy - All women are available to the one who they are attracted!
 
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