"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Do girls like when a guy looses control?

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I had my salsa class again. But I think I messed up.

I danced with the same girl where there is a bit of a mutual attraction going. It was all well, some small talk, nothing deep. The class ends, everyone beings to get their stuff. We are walking out, she suggest she would not mind going dancing on Sunaday but does not want to go alone. There is a salsa event.

I say " hey why don't you give me your number?"
her : "okay .. its 23423432432"

(after this I did not know where I am going with it, its a Sunday so I am not sure of it, don't know if I will be hung over from the day before, if I will not feel like going etc. I was like a deer stuck in head lights. My mind started racing.. and I even went the wrong way in the elevator. I was lost. lol!.)

me: "some undetermined plan mumbling. "
me: "I will call you. "
her: "okay, if I am available"

I am probably over thinking this whole event. Its something new to me. Any who salsa is this Sunday. Today is Wednesday. But I want to take her to a coffee shop to get to know her better, as I don't know much about her.

Need some advice on when to call? I was thinking Friday. Should I just ignore the awkward moment, and not talk about it next time we meet? Kinda just want to chat a little before I take her dancing. What you guys/gals think? I think I made her feel as a backup plan, which I think is kinda a failure on my part. Good lesson though.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why do you say that. Is it to keep the tension going? To have more to talk about on the get together? The drive to the venue? Because seriously I don't even know her last name... It just be more comfortable, I think.
 
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Close physical contact with women breeds intimate thoughts - this is the natural order of things!!

Regular guy - All women are available to the one who they are attracted!
 
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