"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Do flakes ever come back?

t510

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Does anyone have experience where a girl flakes after a couple dates then you disappear and she comes back?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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El Payaso

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This is funny because I just got a text from an old flake.
 

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no way what did she say.. how long since you last talked to her
 

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Yes, flakes usually do return, but its usually because something else had fallen through and they view you as a safety net.

In my experience, flakes reappear 75% of the time.

The real question is: When & when not to give a flake another chance?
 

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They comes back especially if they find you a challenge since you had no interest pursuing them compare to the treatment they get from AFC's.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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El Payaso

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t510 said:
no way what did she say.. how long since you last talked to her
Well, she flaked on me big time. Day of our date, she ignored my texts and calls. So i just sent her a text saying I don't like my time being wasted and I could have been out with someone else now. That was a week ago and I had since deleted her number. She started texting me last night but I ignored them. This morning, I woke up to two missed calls and two more texts from her.

Her: So do you hate me? I know I'm really awful at keeping up with my phone but I really do like you a lot, El Payaso. You amaze me.

Her: I'll be in you area all day tomorrow.

I still haven't replied and don't know if I want to.
 

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SmooveMooves said:
Yes, flakes usually do return, but its usually because something else had fallen through and they view you as a safety net.

In my experience, flakes reappear 75% of the time.

The real question is: When & when not to give a flake another chance?
good
point
 

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El Payaso said:
Well, she flaked on me big time. Day of our date, she ignored my texts and calls. So i just sent her a text saying I don't like my time being wasted and I could have been out with someone else now. That was a week ago and I had since deleted her number. She started texting me last night but I ignored them. This morning, I woke up to two missed calls and two more texts from her.

Her: So do you hate me? I know I'm really awful at keeping up with my phone but I really do like you a lot, El Payaso. You amaze me.

Her: I'll be in you area all day tomorrow.

I still haven't replied and don't know if I want to.
stay strong and resist, if you respond, her hamster will celebrate with champagne
 

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If a woman flakes on you, you have failed.

If a flake comes back, it's because the guy she flaked on you for didn't work out. I don't give flakes a second chance. One flake and the girl is out. Women make time for men they're interested in. I don't go back to flakes because they just end up wanting to be friends. We all know how that works out!

Would she flake on Channing Tatum? Hell no. She'd swim across the Chattahoochee River for that!

Case closed.
 

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So ummmm, you guys were right. I should have read this thread before picking up her call today. I didn't know I would get responses to my post. She called me again this afternoon and I picked up. She said she was in my area and wanted to see me at 7pm. I said yes.

7pm. No call, no show. Got a call from her a few minutes around 9pm saying she's really sorry but she got in an accident so she couldn't make it. I just said okay and dropped the phone.

Lmfao. Wow. The tales some women spin indeed. Well, I've learned my lesson and like nismo said, one flake and the girl is out. I tried the supplicating and understanding route but that obviously doesn't work. Women take your patience for stupidity.

Whatever. I don't even care because I have a more interesting girl that I went on a date with two nights ago. What is funny is that the flaky girl was calling and texting me WHILE I WAS ON THE DATE WITH THIS GIRL. It was mildly entertaining to say the least.

Anyway, I went bowling with her and then we had dinner at a nice restaurant. Heavy kino all the time. She was very receptive to me and the date was very good overall. I dropped her home and she gave me a kiss on the cheek. 1 minute after I left, I got a text from her.

Her: I almost kissed you on your lips but I didn't know how you would take it. Goodnight, El Payaso.

Me: Come outside.

Her: Lol...what?

Me: Come outside in 5 minutes.

Her: We can do it some other time...I'm already in my PJs.

Me: Do what?

Her: The kissing.

Me: Not that silly. There was something you forgot in my car. I wanted to give it back to you. (This was a total lie. The only thing she forgot in my car was a makeout session).

Her: What is it?

Me: I think it's a card. I'm not sure. (Total lie again).

She came out and I grabbed her and kissed her. We made out for like a good 5 minutes or so then she asked me to come inside since it's kind of cold. I knew what that meant but I had to turn her down because I was extremely tired and had work in the morning. We said our goodbyes and I left.

Within like a minute of leaving her house again, I got a text from her.

Her: I like you! You're very charming.


Don't worry, guys. She's a definite bang for sure and her IL is through the roof.

She just texted me tonight and was like "I had a wonderful time with you last night. We need to see each other again and this time longer!"

Here are pics of our convo. I cut out some parts because of sensitive information:

https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/21187880/picsay-1394938343.jpg

https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/21187880/picsay-1394938485.jpg

https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/21187880/picsay-1394938603.jpg

Thanks for the lesson, guys. El Payaso is never giving a flaky girl a second shot ever again.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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