"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
AUTHENTICITY
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This sums it up pretty well.


For me being a DJ is about self-improvment. I always strive to be the best I am both professionally and personally, and I always try to improve myself.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Authenticity, respectful, and in control of their own emotions. That is what a DJ is.

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pressure0354 said:
I have this friend who cheated on his GF before. I guess the story went that he called and eventually confessed - and then his girlfriend told him that she cheated on him too! This was about a year ago. Yet, they still remain a couple (which blows my mind). He goes to school in PA and she goes to school in FL - so its long distance. Now, as of last night, he cheated on her again and may use this new girl as a FBuddy while hes away from his GF. Of course, I joke with him like "Nice work" and stuff, but internally i feel like im somewhat loosing respect for the guy - for not having the balls to break up. So is he a DJ for mackin' girls or what?

I have been with my GF for a year and a half and have yet to cheat.

Why do you care so much? It is his life.

If you don't want to be associated with him because of his behavior...then that's fine. Just do it.
 

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I don't know about being a DJ since I don't qualify for that (thankfully), but being a MAN is also about being a gentleman .. to respect others, have dignity and pride (in the right amounts), self-respect and mean what you say. What I mean by that is, you show respect for her and yourself by remaining loyal, but if she cheats on you then you show yourself enough self-respect to kick her to the sidewalk and move on.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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