Bokanovsky
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That's exactly how I feel right now.shyguy32 said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Do any of you get tired of it all?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I don't get annoyed (when talking to them about non-sexytime topics) but my mind seems to automatically drift to other things in the middle of conversation, like what I'll be squatting in my next gym session, or the price of rice in China.
So atm I'm working a niche market of women who don't speak much English and I don't speak much of their language. They're so much more enjoyable to be around when you don't understand what they're saying and their accent sounds cute or sexy.
So atm I'm working a niche market of women who don't speak much English and I don't speak much of their language. They're so much more enjoyable to be around when you don't understand what they're saying and their accent sounds cute or sexy.