"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Do alpha males pay for sex?

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OR working on yourself and understanding your weaknesses. A lot of guys don't understand that in order to get sex, you need to be a man of quality in some way. Whether that is physically, mentally or with status/money. I believe that any man who knows their weaknesses and knows what to do to improve them will be successful. I know this from my job (life/dating coach)
...and you are going without sex or paying directly for it in the meantime while you are waiting 10 years to self-improve.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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In my opinion paying for sex is for losers only when it comes from a position of weakness...a decent smv guy that wants a quickie before going to back to his precision tasks is hardly a loser in my opinion unlike the guy in the first example.
Decent smv guys getting quickies is a moment of weakness. I'm not hating on escort paying, but I'm not going to give it any leverage in the game of hunting.
 

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We all pay for it one way or another.
I've observed men getting divorced in my social sphere over the years. Some of these men had unpleasant financial settlements in their divorces. Multiple times, I made the observation....

"This is the bill coming due for past vaginal access"

If you think about it, financial settlements in divorces are nothing but payments for previous vaginal access.

Yes, all men pay for sex either directly or indirectly. There's not much of a difference between paying directly or paying eventually when the divorce happens.
 

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For some men, the choice is paying directly for sex or going without sex for very long periods of time.
The only people I give a pass in paying for sex are the truly unfortunate ugly men or disabled men of this world. I still remember that documentary of the disabled guy who went to a sex parlor to get himself some while the pretty hooker wheeled him into the room.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The only people I give a pass in paying for sex are the truly unfortunate ugly men or disabled men of this world. I still remember that documentary of the disabled guy who went to a sex parlor to get himself some while the pretty hooker wheeled him into the room.
Why only those men? I never saw that documentary.

I think about some of the divorced men I know. If you think about the amount of their divorce settlements, the money they spent on their girlfriends/wives over the course of that relationship to maintain it to keep sex flow going, and the sex frequency during the duration of the relationship, they weren't saving much money as compared to paying for the sex directly. And, they had to deal with the downsides of relationships such as the female created drama, etc.

Paying for sex directly is neither alpha nor beta.
 

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The only way I’d consider paying is for a BJ. I’ve had a couple of escort BJs & they were great. However, I’m not a big BJ fan, so it’s not likely.
 

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The only people I give a pass in paying for sex are the truly unfortunate ugly men or disabled men of this world. I still remember that documentary of the disabled guy who went to a sex parlor to get himself some while the pretty hooker wheeled him into the room.
Why would you give a pass? I've seen disabled men with hot gfs. Chads can be disabled too but they have the right face and body and being on a wheelchair for them doesn't mean anything. Ugly guys get allot of pity action probably more than average looking guys. Take your ugly guy, stick him in south east Asia or a Latin American country and problem solved.
 

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I've worked some remote places with limited time back in civilization where "professional services" would be a worthwhile use of time and money.
For the married man who craves some variety, a legal brothel is probably a saving grace. Blowing 1500 with a bookie or a hookie...which one is gonna make you smile?
 

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I read a review where a client claimed a particular escort made him feel like an alpha-male rather than a client. That reminded me of this thread. Guess they are paid to make you feel like an alpha-male if the service is good. The idea of telling a stranger what to do in order to get you off, even if you are paying for it, is still hot. As long as it doesn't feel she's doing it in a heavy, obligatory way because you paid for it, now she has to deliver (ie which would sound like poor service anyway), then she could bring out the alpha-male.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I read a review where a client claimed a particular escort made him feel like an alpha-male rather than a client. That reminded me of this thread. Guess they are paid to make you feel like an alpha-male if the service is good. The idea of telling a stranger what to do in order to get you off, even if you are paying for it, is still hot. As long as it doesn't feel she's doing it in a heavy, obligatory way because you paid for it, now she has to deliver (ie which would sound like poor service anyway), then she could bring out the alpha-male.
Yes ,that man pays for an illusion. Ain't no bringing out the Alpha male if that was never there to begin with. And we can talk all day long about female nature ect, at the end of the day havin and getting a woman its still the realest, purest form of seduction. Nothing beats true desire, and the whole pathway to this true desire.

If that man would have his " game together " ,he would be able to pull a woman from anywhere and get the same treatment wherever he likes.

Btw, what do you think these women do with the money?? Exactly, they go out and search for the true alphas to have fun with ( and probably spend money on them).
 

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Yes ,that man pays for an illusion.
She is a real woman though. A real woman will generate feelings with a man just by being there flesh and blood.

Gamisch said:
Ain't no bringing out the Alpha male if that was never there to begin with. And we can talk all day long about female nature ect, at the end of the day havin and getting a woman its still the realest, purest form of seduction. Nothing beats true desire, and the whole pathway to this true desire.
Then what about YMMV. That means Your Miles May Very. Escorts could be giving inconsistent service and be more passionate and raw about clients she likes and more mechanical and dead-fish to clients she does not like. That's why some clients could report some amazing service or treatment but the next client will think that's a review because he got this awful mechanical and rushed service.

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If that man would have his " game together " ,he would be able to pull a woman from anywhere and get the same treatment wherever he likes.
Maybe. Then again maybe not. Depends on his looks and who he can attract and what the values are.

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Btw, what do you think these women do with the money?? Exactly, they go out and search for the true alphas to have fun with ( and probably spend money on them).
Or, maybe to help their impoverished family members in their Latin American countries. They earn more doing that than other minimum wage jobs and can afford to send more money by the wire. Its all for a good cause.

Aside the point, I wouldn't want a woman who is being banged up by other guys who are paying her. Guys who do disgusting things with her.
 
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She is a real woman though. A real woman will generate feelings with a man just by being there flesh and blood.



Then what about YMMV. That means Your Miles May Very. Escorts could be giving inconsistent service and be more passionate and raw about clients she likes and more mechanical and dead-fish to clients she does not like. That's why some clients could report some amazing service or treatment but the next client will think that's a review because he got this awful mechanical and rushed service.



Maybe. Then again maybe not. Depends on his looks and who he can attract and what the values are.



Or, maybe to help their impoverished family members in their Latin American countries. They earn more doing that than other minimum wage jobs and can afford to send more money by the wire. Its all for a good cause.
Oh yeah I've been to hookers ( legal overhere, brothels cost you 30 bucks a pop for HB8 + latinas and E Europeans) and I am that guy they get hot for. They wanna give their numbers, stay in touch. Let me pop a extra one when I am done. Trying to kiss me.

Still I am morally against it. Makes me feel less of a man.plus I can get p00n by approach or the lazy version would be OLD.
No need to pay for a stink hole .Personal opinion tho.

You romanticize what they do with the money btw . They spend it on clothes drugs party and maybe save some to improve their home situation.

Being a prostitute comes with a price ,that's a mental price , these women will break some or later. Think about beauty that wears off...
 

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Oh yeah I've been to hookers ( legal overhere, brothels cost you 30 bucks a pop for HB8 + latinas and E Europeans) and I am that guy they get hot for. They wanna give their numbers, stay in touch. Let me pop a extra one when I am done. Trying to kiss me.

Still I am morally against it. Makes me feel less of a man.plus I can get p00n by approach or the lazy version would be OLD.
No need to pay for a stink hole .Personal opinion tho.

You romanticize what they do with the money btw . They spend it on clothes drugs party and maybe save some to improve their home situation.

Being a prostitute comes with a price ,that's a mental price , these women will break some or later. Think about beauty that wears off...
Legal pay for poon might be a contributor to less violent incels…?

Pros serve a purpose. Honestly women overall are just a waste of time and annoying as fvck. Pros alleviate those negatives by making it a single transaction.

The only “good” woman is one that you can tolerate and will be a good mother to your offspring. It’s hard though. Women are really fvcking annoying.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Legal pay for poon might be a contributor to less violent incels…?

Pros serve a purpose. Honestly women overall are just a waste of time and annoying as fvck. Pros alleviate those negatives by making it a single transaction.

The only “good” woman is one that you can tolerate and will be a good mother to your offspring. It’s hard though. Women are really fvcking annoying.
Oh yeah most definitely. I agree that once a man goes through a dry spell its a good way to regain some ( sexual) confidence. Also agree it does prevent men from being desperate and prevents rape. But it's too easy, I just dont like its as I rather hunt for my meat.

But the topic was do Alphas pay. Imo a Alpha loses frame( which is all personal btw). Even the most religious dude over here been at least once to those brothels. It's a common thing, cheapens the price for pvssy. And those women are actually damn pretty..

But generally, women here waiting in line for the alphas . No need to chase if it comes to you. And that's what I am trying to make clear , these prostitutes are human. They keep it to themselves , and jn their " free time" still chase Alpha dudes to reproduce ,having many orbiters ect. You WONT be able to tell if a woman does this, without having lots of experience with women. I know many girls who did this.

The alphas over here who are addicted to the brothels always have other mental issues such as anger, paranoia ect.
 
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Oh yeah most definitely. I agree that once a man goes through a dry spell its a good way to regain some ( sexual) confidence. Also agree it does prevent men from being desperate and prevents rape. But it's too easy, I just dont like its as I rather hunt for my meat.

But the topic was do Alphas pay. Imo a Alpha loses frame( which is all personal btw). Even the most religious dude over here been at least once to those brothels. It's a common thing, cheapens the price for pvssy. And those women are actually damn pretty..

But generally, women here waiting in line for the alphas . No need to chase if it comes to you. And that's what I am trying to make clear , these prostitutes are human. They keep it to themselves , and jn their " free time" still chase Alpha dudes to reproduce ,having many orbiters ect. You WONT be able to tell if a woman does this, without having lots of experience with women. I know many girls who did this.

The alphas over here who are addicted to the brothels always have other mental issues such as anger, paranoia ect.
I dont get how it matters how a pro is spending her money or who she is chasing. The fact of the matter is when she is with you and puts her in such a vulnerable position to a total stranger. She is your b1tch. This is what you are paying for. She has to submit to you.
 

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It not as you say. A man can have sex with his girlfriend being drunk, i.E. Sometimes your girlfriend just let you to possess her.
Of course, sometimes as well the girl is apathic and this is a turn-off. But it happens as well with a SNL, a girlfriend or even a wife. So it is not a cause-effect issue. It just can happen or not.

What if you are a rock star and the girl just fuked you to have the experience with such a boy?? She just let herself being possessed, as a girl that wants get pregnant, as a girl that wants to lock you down, as a girl that is impressed just by your money, as a h00ker that just wants money right there, etc...
Someone gave an example on how to use the "drunk" situation. If your girl isn't extra horny for you when she's drunk and making excuses to not want sex she doesn't like you. Because alcohol removes inhibition and releases the underlying feelings and emotions.
 

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Someone gave an example on how to use the "drunk" situation. If your girl isn't extra horny for you when she's drunk and making excuses to not want sex she doesn't like you. Because alcohol removes inhibition and releases the underlying feelings and emotions.
It seems you havent seen too much girls in real life. Your statement doesnt apply everytime with every girl.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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