btownbuck2012
Master Don Juan
I've seen some of these types of things first hand and it is just so hard to understand people's behavior at times.
I'm convinced though that it doesn't have much to do with the actual sex itself.
I've got a good friend whom I've known for 16 years that I now live right next door to in LA. We grew up in Indiana together. He grew up in the church, as did I, and he's always been a very intelligent hardworking good person. He's not blue pill or a chump by any means. He's always been well respected and well liked by everyone. He's also never had too much trouble with women.
His Dad is a Pastor. Now my friend really looks up to and admires his Dad and it was only a few years ago that he found out his Dad had cheated on his Mom with multiple women. Not only did this destroy my friend's view of his father but it shattered his worldview on people. I mean imagine if your Dad is a Pastor, a man whom you look up to and admire and aspire to be like and have molded yourself in the image of, not only within your family but your social circle of friends, too - imagine if that man turned out to be a complete phony.
It was only since then that my friend has also starting cheating on his GF, now wife. They were married last November and he still makes comments to me, off the cuff and out of the blue completely, about trying to f*ck other women. Now this is hard for me to deal with too because I've always looked up to and admired this guy and never thought he would act this way. But I am sure it is his way, and it may be completely subconscious, of trying to deal with what his Dad did. He even made a comment to me one time about how "I was mad at my Dad for doing something I'm now doing". It's heartbreaking stuff to be honest because if his wife knew about this she'd be devastated.
Same thing with women who f*ck around a-lot and cheat on their men. I firmly 100% believe it is a direct result of some type of intimacy/low self esteem issues that A-LOT of people have. I've had 2 LTRs in my life and have slept with 25+ women and I have never had the GENUINE desire to f*ck around on someone. The women I go after are ones that I am majorly turned on by. I have no desire to f*ck anyone else if I'm consistently banging an attractive woman. I actually prefer to put my time and energy into her because quite frankly plate spinning is time consuming. I work a professional job while trying to start a business on the side. Who the f*ck has time to spin multiple plates?
This shady, and quite frankly BIZARRE behavior, from men and women who f*ck around on their partners/spouses is almost always, in my opinion, a cover up or reaction to some issue that has to do with intimacy avoidance, low self esteem or the stress of every day life, growing older and facing the responsibilities of life. Where I get majorly pissed is how these folks PROJECT their insecurities onto others whom are healthy minded enough to call them out or challenge them on this destructive behavior. I mean it's one thing to disagree with someone on why you are cheating on your partner, it's another thing entirely to defend your immoral behavior by shaming and gaslighting a healthy minded individual. Welcome to America in the year 2018.
I agree a woman MAY slow down in cheating in her later years like say maybe 85 or so...I also consider "emotional cheating " worse than full blown cheating because if she is emotionally cheating then the real thing is only inches away..
