"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJ's, Let's See What Your First Post Was

lYlasTer

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I'm just curious to see where you guys came from and where you are now, this could be inspirational to some of the newer guys. This was my first post close to 3 years ago.

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I liked two girls and got put into the friend zone by both of them. After reading some articles, I realized I'm a "nice guy". Here's what happened.

#1. This girl is my physics lab partner. Last week I stopped by her dorm to give her some roses "just because". On Halloween I asked if she was busy, she said she had a lot of homework but said that we needed to talk after class the next day. So we walked together and sat down. She asked me what the roses were for, and I told her because I liked her. She said the gesture was really sweet and I'm a really nice guy, but she just wants to be friends with me...

#2. I've only known this girl for three weeks, haven't put any moves on her yet. She IM's me and we talk for 2 hrs about her relationship problems. At the end she tells me how sweet I am, and is glad that I'm always there for her.

I'm willing to change from an AFC to a DJ. First I gotta evaluate my weaknesses. Looking back, it's obvious I was giving these girls too much attention. Anytime they wanted to talk or wanted something, I WAS THERE. I viewed these girls as queens and thought "if i become her friend she'll realize how good of a guy I am". WRONG, no more of this bull****. I realize girls say they want this stuff, but they don't mean it. Deep down I'm really a nice guy, but I have to change my attitude to get the women I want.

I got looks, personality, and confidence. It seems I have to stop with getting into friendship ****. Thanks, I'll let you guys know how it goes.
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Where am I now? I had sex with the two girls within my first year of starting my journey. Currently in a stable relationship by choice. Not only that but I run my own dating advice blog so I can give back a little . You don't truly appreciate how far you've come until you've seen where you came from.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Here was my first post ... To let you guys know: I did go out with this girl a few times. Played pool, got some coffee and sandwiches, went to a hookah bar, and than I didn't want to pursue her. And I don't believe in 10's anymore! :nono:


Usually I never pursued a woman if she had a child. Mostly because she has to spend so much time with the child and the commitment factor. Recently I met a 9 with a great personality and extremely funny. This makes her a 9.5 to me and an easy 10 if she was taller. Anyway I would actually like to hang out with this girl and get to know her better. I have never dealt with a woman with a child. I know the first few dates should be only her and you, but she has to bring her child sometimes. If anybody has any experience or advice on this topic please help me out.
 
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You guessed it --- "Say 'No' to Hos!!"
 

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Never again will I bother reading that monstrosity (1st post) from many years back. NEVER AGAIN!!!! I'm too embarrassed to post it so I won't even bother doing that. I was possibly the biggest AFC in all of history :down: Oh God, I think I'm gonna be sick :puke:
 

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: vomit : : vomit: I couldn't even get past the first few sentences.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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lYlasTer

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Adrian said:
Never again will I bother reading that monstrosity (1st post) from many years back. NEVER AGAIN!!!! I'm too embarrassed to post it so I won't even bother doing that. I was possibly the biggest AFC in all of history :down: Oh God, I think I'm gonna be sick :puke:
Okay you got me curious and made me search...

"What is a good way of making a girl laugh? Also when giving compliments what are good compliments to give?"


not sure about girls, but you made a dude laugh ;)
 
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