"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJ's, Let's See What Your First Post Was

lYlasTer

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I'm just curious to see where you guys came from and where you are now, this could be inspirational to some of the newer guys. This was my first post close to 3 years ago.

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I liked two girls and got put into the friend zone by both of them. After reading some articles, I realized I'm a "nice guy". Here's what happened.

#1. This girl is my physics lab partner. Last week I stopped by her dorm to give her some roses "just because". On Halloween I asked if she was busy, she said she had a lot of homework but said that we needed to talk after class the next day. So we walked together and sat down. She asked me what the roses were for, and I told her because I liked her. She said the gesture was really sweet and I'm a really nice guy, but she just wants to be friends with me...

#2. I've only known this girl for three weeks, haven't put any moves on her yet. She IM's me and we talk for 2 hrs about her relationship problems. At the end she tells me how sweet I am, and is glad that I'm always there for her.

I'm willing to change from an AFC to a DJ. First I gotta evaluate my weaknesses. Looking back, it's obvious I was giving these girls too much attention. Anytime they wanted to talk or wanted something, I WAS THERE. I viewed these girls as queens and thought "if i become her friend she'll realize how good of a guy I am". WRONG, no more of this bull****. I realize girls say they want this stuff, but they don't mean it. Deep down I'm really a nice guy, but I have to change my attitude to get the women I want.

I got looks, personality, and confidence. It seems I have to stop with getting into friendship ****. Thanks, I'll let you guys know how it goes.
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Where am I now? I had sex with the two girls within my first year of starting my journey. Currently in a stable relationship by choice. Not only that but I run my own dating advice blog so I can give back a little . You don't truly appreciate how far you've come until you've seen where you came from.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Here was my first post ... To let you guys know: I did go out with this girl a few times. Played pool, got some coffee and sandwiches, went to a hookah bar, and than I didn't want to pursue her. And I don't believe in 10's anymore! :nono:


Usually I never pursued a woman if she had a child. Mostly because she has to spend so much time with the child and the commitment factor. Recently I met a 9 with a great personality and extremely funny. This makes her a 9.5 to me and an easy 10 if she was taller. Anyway I would actually like to hang out with this girl and get to know her better. I have never dealt with a woman with a child. I know the first few dates should be only her and you, but she has to bring her child sometimes. If anybody has any experience or advice on this topic please help me out.
 
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You guessed it --- "Say 'No' to Hos!!"
 

Adrian

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Never again will I bother reading that monstrosity (1st post) from many years back. NEVER AGAIN!!!! I'm too embarrassed to post it so I won't even bother doing that. I was possibly the biggest AFC in all of history :down: Oh God, I think I'm gonna be sick :puke:
 

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: vomit : : vomit: I couldn't even get past the first few sentences.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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lYlasTer

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Adrian said:
Never again will I bother reading that monstrosity (1st post) from many years back. NEVER AGAIN!!!! I'm too embarrassed to post it so I won't even bother doing that. I was possibly the biggest AFC in all of history :down: Oh God, I think I'm gonna be sick :puke:
Okay you got me curious and made me search...

"What is a good way of making a girl laugh? Also when giving compliments what are good compliments to give?"


not sure about girls, but you made a dude laugh ;)
 
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