Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
If I feel that way then I would throw 1 Cor 7:2,9 back at condemning thoughts because it's written in the Bible to avoid sexual temptation one is supposed to be married. It says to avoid fornication, people should be married and have a spouse.Bumsniff said:How do those of you who go to church or have gone to church control your sexual feelings when there are so many temptations around you while during mass? Especially if you only see certain women during that time?
Quite possibly.Bumsniff said:How do those of you who go to church or have gone to church control your sexual feelings when there are so many temptations around you while during mass? Especially if you only see certain women during that time?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
True, that.corrector said:If I feel that way then I would throw 1 Cor 7:2,9 back at condemning thoughts because it's written in the Bible to avoid sexual temptation one is supposed to be married. It says to avoid fornication, people should be married and have a spouse.
1 Cor 7:9 acknowledges that people have sexual temptations if they don't have a spouse to release that sexual energy on.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Once you realize that life doesn't mean anything and you might as well kill yourself, then you may just change that tune.twentee said:I noticed that a lot, at about age 11, and totally blew it off, (and all religion) by age 13. It's all just so obviously a crutch for the inept, intended from the start to set up the 'witch doctors" with an easy life.