"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DJ's in Church. Is God testing you?

Bumsniff

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How do those of you who go to church or have gone to church control your sexual feelings when there are so many temptations around you while during mass? Especially if you only see certain women during that time?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Bumsniff said:
How do those of you who go to church or have gone to church control your sexual feelings when there are so many temptations around you while during mass? Especially if you only see certain women during that time?
If I feel that way then I would throw 1 Cor 7:2,9 back at condemning thoughts because it's written in the Bible to avoid sexual temptation one is supposed to be married. It says to avoid fornication, people should be married and have a spouse.

1 Cor 7:9 acknowledges that people have sexual temptations if they don't have a spouse to release that sexual energy on. God created sex between married people so there is nothing wrong with sex itself in marriage. How do you think you were born in the first place? Where would you get the idea that it is wrong?

If you are not attracted to women, then how do you expect to want to be married in the first place? I'd say go and find someone and get married, and if you get rejected then at least you tried to deal with your sexual temptation.
 

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There are no attractive women at my church, and that is probably for the best.
 

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Bumsniff said:
How do those of you who go to church or have gone to church control your sexual feelings when there are so many temptations around you while during mass? Especially if you only see certain women during that time?
Quite possibly.

It's a good opportunity to practice self-control/discipline. Ironically, ignoring women makes them more attracted, so there you go.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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corrector said:
If I feel that way then I would throw 1 Cor 7:2,9 back at condemning thoughts because it's written in the Bible to avoid sexual temptation one is supposed to be married. It says to avoid fornication, people should be married and have a spouse.

1 Cor 7:9 acknowledges that people have sexual temptations if they don't have a spouse to release that sexual energy on.
True, that.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I noticed that a lot, at about age 11, and totally blew it off, (and all religion) by age 13. It's all just so obviously a crutch for the inept, intended from the start to set up the 'witch doctors" with an easy life.
 

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twentee said:
I noticed that a lot, at about age 11, and totally blew it off, (and all religion) by age 13. It's all just so obviously a crutch for the inept, intended from the start to set up the 'witch doctors" with an easy life.
Once you realize that life doesn't mean anything and you might as well kill yourself, then you may just change that tune.

I really don't understand the thinking of people like you. You're like a progress bar that stays stagnant at 50%. You're basing your beliefs on the inadequacies of humans, which is the whole point of religion. You're basically saying "since dumb people use religion to get by, religion is stupid." That's like saying diapers are bad because babies crap their pants.
 

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I knew it wouldn't take long for this to degenerate into a pointless theological debate smh.
 
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