She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
If I feel that way then I would throw 1 Cor 7:2,9 back at condemning thoughts because it's written in the Bible to avoid sexual temptation one is supposed to be married. It says to avoid fornication, people should be married and have a spouse.Bumsniff said:How do those of you who go to church or have gone to church control your sexual feelings when there are so many temptations around you while during mass? Especially if you only see certain women during that time?
Quite possibly.Bumsniff said:How do those of you who go to church or have gone to church control your sexual feelings when there are so many temptations around you while during mass? Especially if you only see certain women during that time?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
True, that.corrector said:If I feel that way then I would throw 1 Cor 7:2,9 back at condemning thoughts because it's written in the Bible to avoid sexual temptation one is supposed to be married. It says to avoid fornication, people should be married and have a spouse.
1 Cor 7:9 acknowledges that people have sexual temptations if they don't have a spouse to release that sexual energy on.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Once you realize that life doesn't mean anything and you might as well kill yourself, then you may just change that tune.twentee said:I noticed that a lot, at about age 11, and totally blew it off, (and all religion) by age 13. It's all just so obviously a crutch for the inept, intended from the start to set up the 'witch doctors" with an easy life.