"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJs Immediate HELP needed concerning Travel to China with a 16 years old chick

Lost In the Seas

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The situation is like this:

I am planning to hang out with this girl tmmr to China go to shopping. We live in HK so it's only like 30 min of train ride to get to ther Chinese border.

The problem is that the girl is 16 years old and she doesn't have a Chinese or Hong Kong passport since she is a westerner, which means she needs to apply for a one day vsia to go into Cihna.

The previous times she'd done it she was with her aunts and mom, but this time it will only be us, and im also 16 so im not sure if adult accompany is required for her (a 16 years old) to apply for Chinese visa. I have checked everything on the site but nowhere does it say this, or perhaps i just have poor searching skills..:confused:

thx alot fellow djs
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alphathree

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What exactly does international law have to do with picking up women?
 

Lost In the Seas

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lol it is just valid applications minimum age requirement obtainning visa through a foreign passport and lack of adult accompany

anyways i checked with the chinese embassy ya a 16 years old is valid to apply for visa alone WHOHOOOO!! :cheer:

now i gotta check up with the visa customs when they are open at 9 to know what exactly must we do when we get there

thanks anyways
 

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You could just go to Schenzen--my understanding is she can get a visa on arrival there (limited to Schenzen only) witohut having to get one in advance.

Because you're 16 too they won't be worried that you're trying to abduct her or anything. My guess (I've never been in this situation so I'm not 100% sure) is that the worst thing that can happen is she'll be refused entry, in which case you and her simply hop on the train back to Hong Kong.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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