"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJing as a barman

Welsh DJ

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I was wondering if anyone has any tips or experiences they want to share on DJing as a barman? Seeing as i'm still early on in learning to become a don juan i wondered if anyone had any tips?
Cheers!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Nicholas Hill

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Where in Wales are you?
 

brainfreeze

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First of all I think you've chose one of the best jobs to DJ in for so many reasons, I work as a barman, and have found this has improved my game in general, as well as being the source of many of my numbers.

I am going to compile a few of tips I have learnt in my experience in the next week (when i get the time, sorry :(), but are there any other, possibly more experienced DJ's who could share some of their advice?

Brainfreeze
 

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bump!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I bartend on occassion here's what I've learned.

Don't get'em to stinko or they won't remember you.

Girls asking for blended drinks are 9 times out of 10 flakey. If they want a White Zifindael, then they think the have class but are absolutely clueless about it. If the want a wine, they are high class, a bit more prudish. If they want a beer, then they are down to earth and cool. If they take straight shots they are sluts.

"The Rule of Four." I did this for fun one night, I gave some girls a couple of shooters that only had mixers and no alcohol. After taking four of them they claimed to be hammered and started acting slutty. In reality girls just use booze as an excuse to be what they truely are.

Watch for the girl that has a gaggle of guys around her and doesn't seem to be buying her own drinks. She is a manipulator.

As a bartender if you notice a guy who is digging on the same girl as you. Give him some free shots and booze, that way he will be way to drunk to be smooth. Makes it easier on you.

You'll have two types of people come into the bar. Regulars and one-nighters. One-nighters just show up out of the blue for many reasons: just passing through, bad day, bar hoping, trolling for skanks. Go after the one-nighters first, since they won't be back they won't burn when talking to the regular clientel. Only pursue regulars one at a time and over long periods of time so no one figures out your just there for the sex.

Most of all you're going to learn most of this on your own, just keep your eyes and ears open and you'll learn it quickly.

-Grey Fox
 

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Grey Fox, good info, all true! I bartend as well.

Originally posted by Grey Fox
"The Rule of Four." I did this for fun one night, I gave some girls a couple of shooters that only had mixers and no alcohol. After taking four of them they claimed to be hammered and started acting slutty. In reality girls just use booze as an excuse to be what they truely are.
I really like this test of yours! Interesting results.
 

donny osmond

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Alrite boyos,

I am thinking of becoming a barman when i go to university at the start of October.

The thing is, i'm still 17. I've been going to pubs/clubs/bars from when i turned 16 - i look old (6'3+workout) so i hardly ever get ID'd.

Being 17 means that i can't get any 'hands-on' experience behind a bar until the middle of August!

How did you guys get your jobs as barmen? Did you have any previous experience?


Cheers,


Donny
 
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