"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DJing as a barman
- Thread starter Welsh DJ
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Y Trallwng Am Byth
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Nicholas Hill
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brainfreeze
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I am going to compile a few of tips I have learnt in my experience in the next week (when i get the time, sorry
), but are there any other, possibly more experienced DJ's who could share some of their advice?Brainfreeze
brainfreeze
Don Juan
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don't get'em to stinko or they won't remember you.
Girls asking for blended drinks are 9 times out of 10 flakey. If they want a White Zifindael, then they think the have class but are absolutely clueless about it. If the want a wine, they are high class, a bit more prudish. If they want a beer, then they are down to earth and cool. If they take straight shots they are sluts.
"The Rule of Four." I did this for fun one night, I gave some girls a couple of shooters that only had mixers and no alcohol. After taking four of them they claimed to be hammered and started acting slutty. In reality girls just use booze as an excuse to be what they truely are.
Watch for the girl that has a gaggle of guys around her and doesn't seem to be buying her own drinks. She is a manipulator.
As a bartender if you notice a guy who is digging on the same girl as you. Give him some free shots and booze, that way he will be way to drunk to be smooth. Makes it easier on you.
You'll have two types of people come into the bar. Regulars and one-nighters. One-nighters just show up out of the blue for many reasons: just passing through, bad day, bar hoping, trolling for skanks. Go after the one-nighters first, since they won't be back they won't burn when talking to the regular clientel. Only pursue regulars one at a time and over long periods of time so no one figures out your just there for the sex.
Most of all you're going to learn most of this on your own, just keep your eyes and ears open and you'll learn it quickly.
-Grey Fox
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I am thinking of becoming a barman when i go to university at the start of October.
The thing is, i'm still 17. I've been going to pubs/clubs/bars from when i turned 16 - i look old (6'3+workout) so i hardly ever get ID'd.
Being 17 means that i can't get any 'hands-on' experience behind a bar until the middle of August!
How did you guys get your jobs as barmen? Did you have any previous experience?
Cheers,
Donny