"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Exxxxactly. No problem to begin with.:woo:Sadao said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Just maintaining. HB8.5SKINNY is showing me mad ioi's that i will act on sometime this week. HB9model also been showing a lot of ioi's as usual and asked me to her prom haha, i said yes. Other than that, i'm on a leaning out phase for the next 5 weeks or so and running on 1600cals/day so needless to say i'm not myself whatsoever.Zerix said:What is going on? There must've been at least one approach throughout this inactivity
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
So i'm working a 4-10pm shift on Friday night and i'm texting back and forth with HB9model about how she wants to hang out later in the night and wants me to come over to entertain her and her friend that instant but I couldn't because I was working. Now during my lunch break at 7pm she calls me and says that she and her friend are going up to UCSB for an outdoor techno concert thing and really wants me to come.
This is where it gets interesting, I really want to go but we'd have to leave no later than 7:30pm and i'm not off until 10pm. So I go to one of the managers and tell them that i absolutely have to leave that instant and that it's a family emergency (i was the only person that night that did stocking so they were ****ed) and they had no choice but to let me leave. So as far as my parents know, i'll be home after work at 10pm so i call them and say that i'm going directly to a friends house for the night after work.
So i bring a buddy and HB9model and her friend come pick us up and we head up to UCSB, an hour long drive. In the meantime we're just having a good time, chatting, music, etc. We get there and go to some guys dorm to get drunk before we go to the show, me and hb9model both get the most drunk. So we stumble over to the show for an hour or so but we get separated until the end of the show, but she did text me to ask where i was. Btw during the show it was pretty dark and some drunk ass guy thought i was his girlfriend for whatever reason so that was a little awkward.
Afterwards we head back over to the dorm for more shots and while walking me and hb9model are flirting, kino, all that jazz, but we're both pretty wasted. So we get more drunk and head over to some party where I get my ass kicked in beer pong and having to drink all these beers. We all end up inside the house dancing and i'm grinding with both hb9model and her friend. Oh yea, this guy was all hitting on her and **** while i was in the middle of beer pong so i quickly rushed over and started up a convo with her until he fvcked off.
So a couple hours later after the party we're all pretty trashed, walking back to the dorm but end up laying on the ground not able to get up the stairs haha. So instead of crashing in the dorm, my friend that i brought didn't drunk much at all and was totally cool to drive. So my friend is driving back, her friend is passed out, and me and hb9model are in the back under a blanket cause it was COLD as a *****. After some talking we start hooking up and continued so for over an hour, took a 5min break to stop for some water at a gas station though but she signaled me back into the back seat when i got back in.
So that was pretty much it, we all crasher at her house but nothing happened since we were all so trashed, tired, and couldn't make noise cause of parents. I am a bit curious though because we haven't talked since we hooked up and she's always the one who texts, calls, or messages me, but nothing so far today. Hmmmmm!
edit: Oh yea! my ****ing job called me house to see if everything was ok so my mom flipped out and called me to ask me wtf i was doing, where i was, etc. I made up some bull**** story how my friend was all ****ed up on drugs and needed me immediately and that i'd be home in the morning. Luckily i was able to avoid a confrontation with her since she went out of town before i got home this morning!
Of course on MY other hand i could me completely over analyzing this and it could very possibly just have been a hook up with a drunk chick. Although she was saying things like "we should have done this 7 years ago", "this is so surreal", "did you EVER think this would happen?"
yeaaaa i know, time flew by and when i was going to fvck her, we arrived at our destination. But yo she totally caved in and called me at like 1am and chatted for a good 45min and can't wait to see me again.Zerix said:Haha, wow, nice, I was expecting a full lay after reading the drinking part haha but good job on the progress with her
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I have the feeling she wants it.Sadao said:
-Long time no talk
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
HB8.5SKINNY gets mad excited and hugs me every time she sees me, hb7straight is still all stalker status over me and comes and talks to me whenever she can. Other than that, i'm really trying to cut down on the socializing at work, i can't get fired before early june so i have to keep the job until then.Zerix said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.