"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJ in training, need pointers to resources

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Hello. I can now confirm that I am an EX-AFC. Firstly I rejected all AFC values. Secondly I worked on sustaining eye contact with strangers, especially women, and have improved a lot. Thirdly, I can now confirm that I have BRAVERY, and am no longer afraid of approaching women, nor offending them.


My modus operandi is to find something which I can use as an opener to initiate conversation. Unfortunately after that is where I falter. I live in Malaysia and I don't know if that is a factor, but people's guards seem to be very high even though the crime rate is unlike cities like New York. The women also seem easily threatened and offended, even if at the start they dare try punk you out with eye contact. Even if I manage to get a convo going, I tend to fail at getting the numbers.

Basically, even though I have bravery my pick ups are artless.

Let me be frank. I could do a search here, and browse through the many free web books, which I have done for other subjects. Unfortunately the search results are unrefined and I cannot piece the information together to get the whole picture.

Could anybody please point me to pick up artistry resources in order of importance, and by technique? I'll save the thread to disk.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Island
Let me be frank. I could do a search here, and browse through the many free web books, which I have done for other subjects. Unfortunately the search results are unrefined and I cannot piece the information together to get the whole picture.
If you aren't willing to work for something, you'll never achieve it. I commend you on maintaining eye contact, but am sad that you're too lazy to try to find information on something you claim to want to know - if you really wanted it, you'd do it yourself.

That being said, try this link.

http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/index.php
 

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Wingman training

I also need resources for specific wingman know how. From the basics to more advanced techniques and troubleshooting guides.
 

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ARGH! Criticism!

But thank you for your frankness.

I know it sounds a lot like complaining about too much money to spend after winning the lottery.

Tell you what guys. DON'T post the links for me.

Just tell me the topic headers thingy for the techniques I need to know, I'll search them up myself.

I need to have them ranked in order of importance though, such as from basics to advanced and trouble shooting.

I also need to know if techniques are different, for congruence during application, and to check for compatibility.

I think my main problem is that I can get specific techniques but I don't understand The Flows.
 

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In my quest to understand the flow of techniques and tactics, as well as understanding strategy, I have tried to get together with fellow DJs in order to observe and absorb knowledge through osmosis.

But our get togethers have been few and were mostly chillin'.

My lack of experience and knowledge causes me great anxiety. I could die tomorrow for god's sake before being able to copy my searches to disk, sift through them and sort them out through ranking, and then printing it all out for easy reference before revising and applying them.

I.........MUST..........RELAX............
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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