"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJ in training, need pointers to resources

Island

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Hello. I can now confirm that I am an EX-AFC. Firstly I rejected all AFC values. Secondly I worked on sustaining eye contact with strangers, especially women, and have improved a lot. Thirdly, I can now confirm that I have BRAVERY, and am no longer afraid of approaching women, nor offending them.


My modus operandi is to find something which I can use as an opener to initiate conversation. Unfortunately after that is where I falter. I live in Malaysia and I don't know if that is a factor, but people's guards seem to be very high even though the crime rate is unlike cities like New York. The women also seem easily threatened and offended, even if at the start they dare try punk you out with eye contact. Even if I manage to get a convo going, I tend to fail at getting the numbers.

Basically, even though I have bravery my pick ups are artless.

Let me be frank. I could do a search here, and browse through the many free web books, which I have done for other subjects. Unfortunately the search results are unrefined and I cannot piece the information together to get the whole picture.

Could anybody please point me to pick up artistry resources in order of importance, and by technique? I'll save the thread to disk.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Island
Let me be frank. I could do a search here, and browse through the many free web books, which I have done for other subjects. Unfortunately the search results are unrefined and I cannot piece the information together to get the whole picture.
If you aren't willing to work for something, you'll never achieve it. I commend you on maintaining eye contact, but am sad that you're too lazy to try to find information on something you claim to want to know - if you really wanted it, you'd do it yourself.

That being said, try this link.

http://sucs.org/~nicholas/djb/index.php
 

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Wingman training

I also need resources for specific wingman know how. From the basics to more advanced techniques and troubleshooting guides.
 

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ARGH! Criticism!

But thank you for your frankness.

I know it sounds a lot like complaining about too much money to spend after winning the lottery.

Tell you what guys. DON'T post the links for me.

Just tell me the topic headers thingy for the techniques I need to know, I'll search them up myself.

I need to have them ranked in order of importance though, such as from basics to advanced and trouble shooting.

I also need to know if techniques are different, for congruence during application, and to check for compatibility.

I think my main problem is that I can get specific techniques but I don't understand The Flows.
 

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In my quest to understand the flow of techniques and tactics, as well as understanding strategy, I have tried to get together with fellow DJs in order to observe and absorb knowledge through osmosis.

But our get togethers have been few and were mostly chillin'.

My lack of experience and knowledge causes me great anxiety. I could die tomorrow for god's sake before being able to copy my searches to disk, sift through them and sort them out through ranking, and then printing it all out for easy reference before revising and applying them.

I.........MUST..........RELAX............
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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