"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJ experts, after you have her, advice on keeping her and staying in control...

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I know if you are completely cold she would probably leave, so I know you mostly just have action dates or just do things don't talk much or let her talk more. I am trying to figure out how to go about it when she is going to say I don't talk much or why I won't go in relationship. Besides saying we are enjoying each others company right now lets just play it by ear. What else would you do over the course of time? I know to only see her once a week and sometimes make excuse blow her off as well.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Twice a week is OK no more because then you're losing frame ie you're stopping doing the things you need to do to hang out with this chick.

I suggest you go and check out the mature man section obviously 45 year olds r going to have had more LTRs than 25 year olds

Woman r like weeds they ll take over if you let them. In my experience it's basically about three things

1. Give them experiences that stimulate their emotions - EG take him to a concert so they get that huge group vibe, chill out on a Sunday morning and read the paper to each other so you get that togetherness vibe, take her to play sports or an amusement park or hard out dancing so you get those endorphins going. Pick the occasional fight with her when she's doing annoying s*** most times of course when she's playing up your default is just to remove attention.

2. Give her pampering sensuality and the best fvcking she s ever known.

3. The rest is about maintaining frame when she s*** tests you. And there's plenty of that in the mature man section if you look. Motu s posts are good. Also Google Dave from Hawaii on chateau heartiste

Damn this is good advice I wish I'd known it 10 years ago
 
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And just in case you missed the whole theme of sosuave. Don't catch oneitis too soon. Until you ve been going out for 3 to 4 months and she's asked to be exclusive it all means nothing and she could disappear in a heartbeat
 
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Okay I understand BUT, I don't want to date women anymore after this last girl ****ed me over, I just want to have **** buddies and hangout I DO NOT want to spend money on women. Last girl was cool she paid her way and made me dinner etc... I want stuff like that. So, what would I need to do to just have girls chill and ****?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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