"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DJ Bootcamp - I'm starting

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Okay so this is Week #1, so this is the week in which I am meant to say hello to a total of 50 strangers/Practice eye contact.

I can already do the eye contact, I started saying hello to some people today, but I just got weird looks. Kind of put me off, so I only managed a total of three. Nobody said hello back to me or gave me a decent reaction. Just one of them opened her mouth in amazement. What's wrong with these people?

It was really awkward : /. Never mind, I have the rest of the week, but I am unwell so I don't know if I will get any oppurtunities.

Anybody have any ideas as to why I am just getting weird looks?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Im also starting the bootcamp this week. I think older people react better when you greet them. I said hi to 3 older people and they said hi too. i tried it with this one girl and she just looked, ignored me, and just kept walking
 

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Mr Plow said:
Okay so this is Week #1, so this is the week in which I am meant to say hello to a total of 50 strangers/Practice eye contact.

I can already do the eye contact, I started saying hello to some people today, but I just got weird looks. Kind of put me off, so I only managed a total of three. Nobody said hello back to me or gave me a decent reaction. Just one of them opened her mouth in amazement. What's wrong with these people?

It was really awkward : /. Never mind, I have the rest of the week, but I am unwell so I don't know if I will get any oppurtunities.

Anybody have any ideas as to why I am just getting weird looks?
The simple and most likely answer, I would have to say from experience and my knowledge of this subject, is: body language and voice tonality. It's easy enough to say "hi" to someone... But for them to really hear you, you need the words that come out of your mouth (the content and voice tonality) to be congruent to your body language.

What angle do you approach at? What are the people doing while you approach? What are you doing while you approach?

One small problem can throw your entire vibe, image, call it whatever you want, off. Realize that the keyword here is small. You will fix this and learn a lot in the process of doing so!
 

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BJJkid said:
Im also starting the bootcamp this week. I think older people react better when you greet them. I said hi to 3 older people and they said hi too. i tried it with this one girl and she just looked, ignored me, and just kept walking
Nice good luck, keep me updated of how you are getting on and maybe we can share some of our stories.
 

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JD1 said:
The simple and most likely answer, I would have to say from experience and my knowledge of this subject, is: body language and voice tonality. It's easy enough to say "hi" to someone... But for them to really hear you, you need the words that come out of your mouth (the content and voice tonality) to be congruent to your body language.

What angle do you approach at? What are the people doing while you approach? What are you doing while you approach?

One small problem can throw your entire vibe, image, call it whatever you want, off. Realize that the keyword here is small. You will fix this and learn a lot in the process of doing so!
Yer I think I had my tonality okay, I don't *think* I had any problems with body language but then again I don't know much of it.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Can I play too? I want to get rid of my social anxiety once and for all, and systematic approach looks promising. So we have time until next tuesday, right?
 

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Can I play too? I want to get rid of my social anxiety once and for all, and systematic approach looks promising. So we have time until next tuesday, right?
That's right :) I am ill though and indoors all day so I might restart when I am better and mingle it with next weeks excercise.
 

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Back on my feet, made more small time approaches which means just "hello"s and the such. I am starting to lose some of my approach anxeity, it's a great feeling. Most probably it was due to being with one of my mates who is a right laugh to be with.
 

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Carried in, got in some more hellos, actually got a few returned to me! *shock*

Except one who told me to "kiss her ass"

I was thinking of maybe saying something along the lines of, "well if you are into that sort of thing"

But she was out of sight before I had time to think

Note to self: Sharpen wit

I am now onto week 2 and new challenges await :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Im in there currently as well. It became a game of waiting for the perfect situation, where they are not in a rush and are staring at you for some reason as well. But during the last 10 I wouldnt let one person pass me without greeting them Even if they were listening to music, in a rush or completely unaware of my existence. Many of them responded right back. Its tonality and CONFIDENCE. thats what is what this exercise is about.
 
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