"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DJ Bootcamp - I'm starting

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Okay so this is Week #1, so this is the week in which I am meant to say hello to a total of 50 strangers/Practice eye contact.

I can already do the eye contact, I started saying hello to some people today, but I just got weird looks. Kind of put me off, so I only managed a total of three. Nobody said hello back to me or gave me a decent reaction. Just one of them opened her mouth in amazement. What's wrong with these people?

It was really awkward : /. Never mind, I have the rest of the week, but I am unwell so I don't know if I will get any oppurtunities.

Anybody have any ideas as to why I am just getting weird looks?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Im also starting the bootcamp this week. I think older people react better when you greet them. I said hi to 3 older people and they said hi too. i tried it with this one girl and she just looked, ignored me, and just kept walking
 

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Mr Plow said:
Okay so this is Week #1, so this is the week in which I am meant to say hello to a total of 50 strangers/Practice eye contact.

I can already do the eye contact, I started saying hello to some people today, but I just got weird looks. Kind of put me off, so I only managed a total of three. Nobody said hello back to me or gave me a decent reaction. Just one of them opened her mouth in amazement. What's wrong with these people?

It was really awkward : /. Never mind, I have the rest of the week, but I am unwell so I don't know if I will get any oppurtunities.

Anybody have any ideas as to why I am just getting weird looks?
The simple and most likely answer, I would have to say from experience and my knowledge of this subject, is: body language and voice tonality. It's easy enough to say "hi" to someone... But for them to really hear you, you need the words that come out of your mouth (the content and voice tonality) to be congruent to your body language.

What angle do you approach at? What are the people doing while you approach? What are you doing while you approach?

One small problem can throw your entire vibe, image, call it whatever you want, off. Realize that the keyword here is small. You will fix this and learn a lot in the process of doing so!
 

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BJJkid said:
Im also starting the bootcamp this week. I think older people react better when you greet them. I said hi to 3 older people and they said hi too. i tried it with this one girl and she just looked, ignored me, and just kept walking
Nice good luck, keep me updated of how you are getting on and maybe we can share some of our stories.
 

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JD1 said:
The simple and most likely answer, I would have to say from experience and my knowledge of this subject, is: body language and voice tonality. It's easy enough to say "hi" to someone... But for them to really hear you, you need the words that come out of your mouth (the content and voice tonality) to be congruent to your body language.

What angle do you approach at? What are the people doing while you approach? What are you doing while you approach?

One small problem can throw your entire vibe, image, call it whatever you want, off. Realize that the keyword here is small. You will fix this and learn a lot in the process of doing so!
Yer I think I had my tonality okay, I don't *think* I had any problems with body language but then again I don't know much of it.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Can I play too? I want to get rid of my social anxiety once and for all, and systematic approach looks promising. So we have time until next tuesday, right?
 

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Can I play too? I want to get rid of my social anxiety once and for all, and systematic approach looks promising. So we have time until next tuesday, right?
That's right :) I am ill though and indoors all day so I might restart when I am better and mingle it with next weeks excercise.
 

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Back on my feet, made more small time approaches which means just "hello"s and the such. I am starting to lose some of my approach anxeity, it's a great feeling. Most probably it was due to being with one of my mates who is a right laugh to be with.
 

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Carried in, got in some more hellos, actually got a few returned to me! *shock*

Except one who told me to "kiss her ass"

I was thinking of maybe saying something along the lines of, "well if you are into that sort of thing"

But she was out of sight before I had time to think

Note to self: Sharpen wit

I am now onto week 2 and new challenges await :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Im in there currently as well. It became a game of waiting for the perfect situation, where they are not in a rush and are staring at you for some reason as well. But during the last 10 I wouldnt let one person pass me without greeting them Even if they were listening to music, in a rush or completely unaware of my existence. Many of them responded right back. Its tonality and CONFIDENCE. thats what is what this exercise is about.
 
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