Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Who's in?

Once a week we read, discuss and breakdown a section of the DJ Bible.

I was thinking we could start with Pook's stuff, then branch out, get a good base going. Either that or we swtich off between Pook, Anti-Dump, and the rest.

Usually, the best days for this kind of stuff would be Tuesdays or Wednesdays. So maybe every Tuesdays 5pm Pacific time we start.

What's your guy's thoughts on this? Suggestions?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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for the sake of getting people to ****ing read the DJ Bible i would wholeheartedly do this
 

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Agreed, and I'm one of those people. It can seem overwhelming, kind of like that other bible, but I think it could handled, one section at a time.

Hopefully some of you old crusty vets would be involved as well. Nothing wrong with reading something a second time, may pick up on a few things you missed the first time around. Plus, with more experience under your belt, you may have a different interpretation this time as well.
 

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Well, not very much response to this idea. That's okay, I may be doing this one on my own. I guess it will be like an online journal. My DJ Bible Journey. :)

I'm going to be taking it slow and steady. In the over nine months since I've been on here I've probably spent a total of an hour reading the DJ Bible, and most of it was just skimming. So this time, I'm going to take it apart piece by piece, and actually read it, and study it. I'm going to do my best to be open, and take an objective approach to it. I will not take it as fact necessarily, but more or less try to understand where the author was coming from, and understand that it's his opinion and from his own experience, and then take it from there. I will see how and if I can apply this knowledge to my own life.

During my reading I'm going to be asking myself questions. One main question in particular:

How can I relate this to past and current experiences, and how can apply it to current and future experiences?

I'm going to begin with Pook's Fifteen Lessons. The first week, this week, I'm going to study lessons 1 through 5.

Next Tuesday I will share what I have learned.
 

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I am down for this

How will the study sessions work?

We all read the same sections and discuss it every week?

Let's make it more organized before it turns into some jumbled mess

But yeah this seems like a legit idea, im in.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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evausos said:
I am down for this

How will the study sessions work?

We all read the same sections and discuss it every week?

Let's make it more organized before it turns into some jumbled mess

But yeah this seems like a legit idea, im in.
That's pretty much it, we read a section at a time, then we go over it.

That's it.

If you have any ideas to make it less 'jumbled', I'm all ears.

A questionnaire would be nice, but I'm relatively new to the DJ Bible so I'll be shooting from the hip, which shouldn't be a problem ;)

Other than that, I'll be making a post every Tuesday. And we'll discuss the current section.

Sound good? Otherwise, if you think there's a better way, let me know.
 

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Can someone post a link of the DJ bible? And what does HB and some of these other abbreviations mean?
 

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I can see why you want to do this but you guys need to quit the mental masturbation , walk outside and meet some women. Probably because it's easier to pretend you're doing something rather than actually doing something that might hurt your ego.

If you spent one hour a day going out and talking to women, you will learn twice as much, twice as fast. Then come back and "study the bible" :up:
 

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Mr Wright said:
I can see why you want to do this but you guys need to quit the mental masturbation , walk outside and meet some women. Probably because it's easier to pretend you're doing something rather than actually doing something that might hurt your ego.

If you spent one hour a day going out and talking to women, you will learn twice as much, twice as fast. Then come back and "study the bible" :up:
Wait, so you're saying we should go out and actually meet women?? Hold on while I think about this...

Okay, so you're saying we should go out and actually meet women?? Have I understood this correctly?

Oh my god bro, you're a fvcking genius!! How did you ever come up with something like that??

I wish you were around 25 years ago when I started liking chicks, you would have been the solution to all my problems.


Mr Wright, I realize you're obviously the big daddy mac when it comes to girls, but hey, feel free to join this little study session. You know, when you have time from all that bangin you're obviously doing. We could use a guy that knows all of the answers and has everything figured out.

But hey, for the sake of the rest of us, would it be possible to just have an open mind, and possibly try to learn something new? If, you know, that's possible. Hopefully it wouldn't interfere with all of that knowledge you already have up in that overly large, chick magnet, brain of yours.

If that's the case, then feel free, come join in.

PeasantPlayer said:
Can someone post a link of the DJ bible? And what does HB and some of these other abbreviations mean?
Here's the fifteen lessons: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=59150

1 through 5 is what we're reading this week.
 

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Actually what the hell, why not this could be useful if it's integrated with going out. Let's shoot.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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That's the spirit :up:
 

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JohnChops said:
i can always read more, whats the first assignment phuckers
Welcome.
 

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i think you should pick one post a week, and we should just have a discussion thread on that post and what we took from it.


i had this deal where i read something out the DJ bible everyday for like 4 years. Even today when I am dealing with my wife a lot of the stuff that pops in my head, isn't from this forum it's from the DJ bible.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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*Reminder*

DJ Bible Study
Next Tuesday 1/28 at 5pm PST
We will be discussing the first 5 lessons of Pook's "15 Lessons". If you can't make it right on time, that's okay, get in when you can.

Excerpts from this week's reading:

“Foresight teaches gently; error teaches brutally”
“Rejection is better than Regret”
"Friendship- Abandon all hope ye who enter!"
“Judge by actions, not by words.”
“Patience is the refined sense of confidence.”
“Trust the gut.”

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=59150

For those that wish to be involved, please read up and have questions and thoughts ready for discussion.
 

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Peaks&Valleys said:
Wait, so you're saying we should go out and actually meet women?? Hold on while I think about this...

Okay, so you're saying we should go out and actually meet women?? Have I understood this correctly?
Actually go out and meet women? Who does he think we are - Supermen?

I might be down for the study group as long as the reading assignments are light. :)
 

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You picked an interesting first one. I would have picked Kill that Desperation that's my fav post.

You picked the one post of Pooks that I have a bunch of issues with. This will be interesting
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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