“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Disrespected to the Max

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Okay this is a long post, if you have the patience to read it kudos to you.

It all started when a friend of mine and I started dating (Yeah I know big mistake) it started off pretty well, however a couple weeks into it she started complaining how I don't pay enough attention to her. This is because I work as an intern for a baseball team and I told her that I was too busy to call her every day and crap like that.

I was going on a vacation later that week, and before I left a group of us got together the for the last time before I went to the east coast.

This is where she started disrespecting me, the first sign of disrespect was in my car. I was driving to get something to eat and we had her younger cousin in the car. All of a sudden out of no where she starts calling me names for no apparent reason "dumass, idiot, moron" she kept doing it over and over and over. I waited until we got out of the car and I grabbed her hand and said "Don't ever do that **** again." because before we were good friends and she never would do stupid **** like this. My guess is that she wanted to show off to her cousin.

The second sign was we were at my friends house and she continued to treat me like ****, she ignored me, the interest level went way down and I knew that it was pretty much done. Which was fine with me because I didn't want to be treated like a doormat. I tried to call her that night to tell her it wasn't going to work out, but she didn't answer.

The next day I left for vacation, and that night she called me at 12 and said. "Hey, we need to talk. I'll call you back in 15 minutes." 30 minutes later I got pissed so I called her back, she said "Yeah sorry, I'll call you back in 5 minutes" I waited 10, got extremely pissed and called her back and said "We're talking about this now."

We broke it off and that was kick ass, but the next thing I asked was "Did I do anything to piss you off?" and she said "Yeah, well that one time over the phone you called me a lesbian."

I almost broke my phone, I called her that back when we were still friends, she obviously just wanted to find an excuse to break it off with me, and I erupted on her. I called her out on all her bull**** and told her that I would never have thought she'd be capable of disrespecting me like that.

After getting my moneys worth, I hung up the phone. I got back in town yesterday and she IMS and pretends everything is back to normal.

She did not apologize at all....

She was a good friend of mine, but I don't think I can stand being around her anymore. Let this be a lesson to those who think dating friends can work out....it can't. 98% of the time it will end in a bad way.

Please post your comments.

CYJAY

P.S. I'm seeing another girl tonite, I'm stopping by my friends house with her and my ex will probably be there. I can't wait to see her reaction.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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AlexTheGreat

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k, so let me get this straight : out of nowhere, she starts dissing you ? Hmmm ... and you really have no idea why ?

Did she show any signs of being turned off before this started happening ?
 

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Need more information.

How long you dated... Why you jumped the gun instead of talking it out... Details!
 

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Originally posted by AlexTheGreat
k, so let me get this straight : out of nowhere, she starts dissing you ? Hmmm ... and you really have no idea why ?

Did she show any signs of being turned off before this started happening ?
Okay I just found this out today.

The night her and I called it off she was talking to a friend of mine, asking him to try and brainstorm a reason for breaking up with me.

He said he couldn't offer any.

She's just a *****.

I didn't do anything out of the ordinary that I have been doing the past few months, and I've been seeing multiple girls during that time...so it's possible I just didn't pay enough attention to her?
 

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
Need more information.

How long you dated... Why you jumped the gun instead of talking it out... Details!
I did try to talk to her.

She avoided me at my friends house the entire night. I pulled her aside and said "we need to talk" and she said "Not now."

I said "fine, we will later than."

I called her cell phone that night and she didnt answer. My friend than called me later that night and said he just got off the phone with her.

We only dated a month. Seems to me all she wanted was a f*** buddy.

The only thing I can think of her being turned of by would be the lack of attention I gave her.

I work from 8 am-11:30 p.m.

She kept saying "its not you it's me" which we all know is just b.s.

I hung out with a couple of other girls tonight, and now she just immed me and wants to know what exactly happened with them.

I don't care about her, I'm not going to waste my time.

Hope I provided enough details.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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It isn't any of her business what happened between you and them.

She's a *****. Stop talking to her. She's given you every reason to tell her to her face that you don't see any reason to spend any more time talking to or thinking about her.
 

cyjay201

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Originally posted by Porky
It isn't any of her business what happened between you and them.

She's a *****. Stop talking to her. She's given you every reason to tell her to her face that you don't see any reason to spend any more time talking to or thinking about her.
Yeah. She keeps Imming me, but now I just don't respond.
 

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You shouldnt take BS from this girl. Break up with her.
 

cyjay201

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Originally posted by HHloser2
You shouldnt take BS from this girl. Break up with her.

........

I guess you didn't read my first long post. I wrote in my first post "we broke it off"

So don't worry I'm not taking anymore crap from her. :D

Thanks to all that contributed to the thread.

CYJAY
 

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**** even receiving her IMs. BLOCK that *****. Get her off of your mind and out of your life for good.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Porky
**** even receiving her IMs. BLOCK that *****. Get her off of your mind and out of your life for good.
Ya man i agree with porky, F8ck thats sh8t. She's not worth your time if she's gonna pull things like that.

Relationships with friend Can work but don't count on keeping a friendship if it doesn't so be aware of that.
 

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Vincent, yeah I know I usually don't try to date friends. That's usually my number one rule, but I broke it myself.

Porky, I have blocked her screenname.

I haven't talked to her in 4 days and I feel a lot better.

Thanks
 
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